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    %TEMPT ABUSE SELF OTHER CONTROL ADDICT RELATION 911006

     There  are many occasions in which we may be  tempted
to  abuse our self or another person in an effort  to  get
what we want, desire or think that we need.

     There  are many occasions in which we seek to  defend
our  selves or loved ones against another person  who  may
yield to the temptation just indicated.

     The  quality  of  our  personal  and  communal  lives
depends  critically  upon  how  we  respond  to  our   own
temptations,   and  how we respond  to  the  possibilities
inherent in how other people respond to their temptations;
perhaps with disintegrative consequences.

     The  quality  of  our  personal  and  communal  lives
further  depends  critically upon how we regard  ourselves
and  each  other  because of our/their  responses  to  the
temptations and perceived threats to integrity.

     Our   responses  may  be   legalistic,    moralistic,
systematic,  technocratic, manipulative, coercive, etc; or
they  may  be  rooted in the prompting of  what  Love  has
written in our hearts and instincts within the contexts of
integrative  families  and communities.  Our view  of  our
responses will be similarly rooted.

     Often    legalistic,     moralistic,      systematic,
technocratic,   manipulative,   coercive,  etc.  kinds  of
responses lead tragically to disintegration. Following the
promptings  of  what  Love has written in our  hearts  and
instincts  more  often leads to integrative  fruits  which
come  without  guarantees.   Our views of  these  outcomes
reflect the attitudes which lead to the outcomes.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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