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   %LOVE SECURE FOUNDATIONS HONESTY DILEMMA PROBLEM 910918

     Our physical, affective, spiritual and mental ways of
being   our  selves weave the tightly woven fabric of  our
unique lives.

     Love  lays down secure foundations for honesty;   for
without  the  security of love's foundations we cannot  be
true  to ourselves or to each other.

     In  the absence of the gift of security given in love
and  accepted  in  humility;  it is risky to be  open  and
honest in dealing with our dilemmas.

     If  we  are not open and honest in our  dealing  with
the dilemmas  of  our lives;   we disintegrate as  persons
and communities, and lack personal and communal integrity.

     If  we fail to deal wisely with the dilemmas  of  our
lives;   our    disintegration   is  manifested   in   our
affective alienations when we try to hide our failures  in
dishonest manipulations of our appearances.

     We  need to lay down secure foundations for  honesty;
else  we   will    feel    the   need    to    dishonestly
manipulate    our appearances to try to achieve  affective
acceptance.

     If   we are trying to achieve  affective  acceptance;
we  are very trying people,  and are not nice to  be  with
because we are not reliable and put people on edge.

     When   we   are   dishonestly   trying   to   achieve
affective acceptance;   we are not honestly responsive and
so cannot be responsible or trust-worthy, and are insecure
with each other.

     If   our   affective lives make us feel  insecure  we
seek     to    defend     ourselves     with     dishonest
manipulations    which  undermine  the secure  foundations
which love seeks to  lay down.

     In  our  dishonest manipulations we cannot let go  of
our defenses, cannot relax with each other in honest love,
and seek dishonest technical substitutes for honest love.

     Within  our dishonest technocratic  manipulations  we
cannot  be clear about the ideals,   values,   principles,
goals and desires which dominate our weak spiritual lives.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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