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  %COLLUSION ADDICT CO-DEPENDENT BLIND SEE PERCEIVE 910612

     We    need   to   be  clear  that   participants   in
collusions,   addicts   and  co-dependents  not  only  are
victims   of  their dishonest representations:   of  their
perceptions,   of what they hear,   and of what they  see;
even further,   they are victims  of their dishonesty:  in
what they perceive,   in what they hear,  and in what they
see.

     Collusions modify perceptions,  hearing,  and seeing;
because collusions modify expectations.

     All  too often:  We perceive what we expect.  We hear
what we expect.  We see what we expect.  What we perceive,
what  we hear,  and what we see depends greatly  upon  our
collusions,    addictions   and   co-dependencies.     Our
reporting  of  our perceptions,  hearing and seeing may be
as  honest  as we can make  it:   but we may be  reporting
dishonest   perceptions,  dishonest hearing and  dishonest
seeing.

     Dishonesty may originate in perception,  hearing  and
seeing We  are  totally unaware of such dishonesty:     it
is  not lying, for we are totally unaware of it.

     It  is  exceedingly  difficult  to  become  aware  of
our dishonesty  if  it  is  operating  at  the  level   of
our perceptions,  hearing and seeing.  Yet it may properly
be called dishonesty, because it is part of the dishonesty
in  our   collusive  games  of  mutual   self   deception,
our addictions and our co-dependencies.

     To   become  aware of our most subtle  dishonesty  we
need   to actively  seek  to  be  in dialogue with  people
who    are   victims  of   quite   different   collusions,
addictions and co-dependencies;    or  perhaps  are people
who   are  totally honest.     To   us  they  will  appear
to    be   strange,  untrustworthy,    crazy or  otherwise
unreliable;   yet is is important  to  us for us to try to
be  in  honest  dialogue with  them;   for in such  honest
dialogue  we may be able to discover   the   most   subtle
forms  of  dishonesty  which victimize us in ways which we
cannot  perceive,  cannot hear and  cannot   see---without
dialogue  between  us   and  those people   who   are  not
victims of our most subtle  forms  of dishonesty.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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