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%LEARN META VALUE AVERSION PREJUDICE CONFLICT DICHO 910605

     In   the  context  of conflicts between the poles  of
each  cultural  dichotomy people  learn  prejudices  which
occasion  aversion  to meta-values which are complementary
to  their own meta-values.

     When   the   conflicts  of one  generation  are   not
resolved  through  the integration of  meta-values,    the
conflicts    and   the   consequent   aversions    towards
complementary meta-values are  both  passed  to  the  next
generation,    where  they continue to fester and occasion
disintegration.

     Consider  our  many  conflicts:   Blacks  vs  whites.
Christians  vs  Jews.    Protestants vs Catholics.   Irish
vs  English. Heterosexuals   vs  homosexuals.    Labor  vs
management. Capitalists   vs  Communists.   Scientists  vs
Humanists. Addicts vs co-dependents. Males vs females.

     Within  each dichotomous conflict polarities  develop
wherein participants   become  aversive  to  each  other's
transcendent meta-values,   because  of their associations
within   the conflict.   Such associations make it  nearly
impossible for participants  in  the conflicts to see  any
value   in  the complimentary  ideals and principles which
members of  the opposition affirm.  Addictive affirmations
of  such  ideals,   principles and  values  undermine  the
possibility of  mutual understanding   and   co-operation;
and   so   addictive affirmations perpetuate the conflict.

     Conflict  resolution is real only when it takes place
at a variety of levels and in parallel ways:

     (1) Person to person reconciliation,

     (2) Communal reconciliation and integration of
   ideals, values and principles,

     (3) Cultural familiarization,

     (4) Organizational reconciliation and integration,

     (5) Language sharing and conceptual integration,

     (6) etc.

     People   who  are  imprisoned  in  multi-generational
conflicts  need  to learn to value the ideal  of  conflict
resolution  as the way out of their common prisons;    for
they  are  trapped  together  in  their common  prison  as
combatants  in  their prison.   Such people will remain in
their  prison  together,  or  they will get out  of  their
prison together.   It is the nature  of  their prison that
they cannot  escape  without each other.

     People  engaged in conflicts often entrap  themselves
in  the prisons of positions which they take in opposition
to  each other;    falling into the trap of regarding  the
particular  positions  which they take as having  ultimate
value.   When so   trapped  they  cannot  perceive   their
common    best interests  in finding a true resolution  of
their conflict.  They  cannot find ways of GETTING TO  YES
or  find  ways  of GETTING  TOGETHER as suggested in books
of those names  by Roger Fisher and associates.

     When  people  value  positions they  or  others  have
taken,  and lose sight of their own and each other's meta-
values,   they  as  people  become the  victims  of  their
tragic choices  of limited  ideals  and values.   Conflict
resolution  in  such instances must go hand in  hand  with
values   clarification,   for  confusion  often  leads  to
misunderstanding,   conflict and violence.

     The  ultimate conflict is the conflict between  those
people   who    serve   the   ideals   and    values    of
addiction,     co-dependence and collusive games of mutual
self  deception on the  one  hand;    and other people who
seek    to   honestly  resolve   the   conflicts   between
idolatrous    positions     taken   in      support     of
disintegrative   ideals,     values,     and  technocratic
systems  of  legalistic morality,   ethics  and codes   of
conformal   conduct.   The  conflict  is  between  honesty
and   clarity  on  the  one  hand,    and  deception   and
confusion on the other hand. The people who with integrity
and  love  seek  honesty and clarity thereby  threaten  to
expose  the  deception  and  confusion  of  addicts,   co-
dependents  and colluders;  which exposure the latter seek
to  prevent from happening,  for real honesty and  clarity
would  eliminate their whole mutually deceptive  universe.
Resurrection  and  rebirth into a new,  clear  and  honest
universe is too painful for them to contemplate.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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