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   %IMPULSIVE SPEND GIVE GENEROUS COMPULSIVE ADDICT 910526

     Some people are addictive spenders;  seeking to  find
pleasure,   happiness and fulfillment in buying things and
services.

     Some people  try  to find  pleasure,   happiness  and
fulfillment  in  impulsive  and  compulsive  giving;    in
generosity which is devoid of prudence.   Such people take
care of addicts who in covert ways demand more than can be
honestly   given  in  helpful/healthy  assistance.    Many
addicts  want to be taken care of as a parasite.   They do
not  want to be participants in healthy and  honest  human
relationships.    They do not what to share,  they want to
get and to take.  They do not want to know the truth; they
want  to see reality through rose colored glasses.    They
want others to make their world o.k.  for them in spite of
their  compulsive  dishonesty and dysfunctional  behavior.
They  do not want to know the truth about their  mistakes,
and want others to protect them from the truth about their
mistakes.   Thus they need compulsively generous givers to
compensate  for  their  dishonesty  by  joining  in  their
dishonest games of mutual self deception.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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