This is http://www.essayz.com/a9105111.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %GOOD MORAL PEOPLE CONTROL GUIDE LEAD MODEL LOVE 910511 Good moral people who try to control the behavior of others through the use of good moral codes and laws make it difficult for people to distinguish between helpful guidance and addictive manipulation. Healthy people instinctively rebel against manipulations designed to try to control them; for control is unhealthy. When healthy young people rebel against the manipulative efforts of their parents to control them through the imposition of dishonest codes of behavior, the young people are inevitably confused, and find it difficult to distinguish between disintegrative behavior and integrative behavior. It is not helpful for respectable people to try to use manipulations in efforts to make people behave like they "should". Such manipulations confuse the issues and invite rebellion. Healthy young people and healthy mature people are programmed by God to avoid such manipulations as disintegrative; yet the maneuvers which often are used to avoid such manipulations are themselves unhealthy, even though not as unhealthy as meekly submitting to being victimized by the manipulators. People who try to make other people conform to some moral code often fail to be open and honest about themselves, and fail to work to provide contexts in which others will feel secure in being open and honest about themselves. In the absence of such secure contexts no moral code or system of ethics is of much help to anybody. Thus the people who seek to impose such codes and systems do not merit respect or support. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================