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 %SEXUALITY CONTROL TECHNIQUE MEANS HONEST RELATION 910208

     Some people attempt to use sexuality as a  means/tool
by  which  to control other people  and/or  relationships.
They see sexuality as a screw-driver to be used.

     Other people  attempt to control sexuality;   and  by
being  in  control of sexuality to achieve  acceptability,
respect, propriety and/or self esteem.  They see sexuality
as a beast to be caged and tamed.

     The first kind of people regard sexuality itself as a
tool.    The  second kind of people regard the control  of
sexuality  as  a tool.   Both kinds of behavior are  often
technocratic at  heart,  and so usually miss  the mark  by
failing to be concerned about balance, integrity, honesty,
authenticity,  mutuality, spontaneity,  responsiveness and
other marks of balanced healthy human relationships.

     Technocrats are preoccupied with using tools to be in
control of matters of the heart.   They cannot  understand
people  who are simply open and honest with each other  in
relationships  which are authentic in heartfelt giving and
receiving,   and for whom control and technologies are not
matters    of    passionate   concern    and    compulsive
preoccupation.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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