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   %TRUST HONEST INTEGRITY SECURITY RISK VULNERABLE 910125

     We  cannot be secure with our integrity if we do  not
feel i is  safe to take the risk of being honest;   if  we
cannot trust others to honestly accept our own honesty.

     Our   personal and communal integrity are  threatened
by   any  circumstances  which  lead  us  to  regard   the
manipulation   of  the   truth  as  a  prudent  technique;
whether   it  be   through  outright  lies,   or   through
communications  of any kind which lead  others to  believe
within themselves what is not true for us or for them.

     We    have   an  instinctive  need  for    integrity,
coherence,   truth.   When we see people act in ways which
threaten   our  sense  of  integrity,    coherence  and/or
truth,     we   feel instinctively  that we  cannot  trust
them;  we are  thereby alienated from them.

     When  we  act  and communicate in ways which make  us
feel that we lack integrity, coherence, worth and/or inner
truth,   we feel  instinctively  what we cannot trust  our
own   selves,   and we are thereby alienated from our  own
selves.

     When   such  alienation and disintegration  occur  to
us   as  children   who   feel  the  "truth"    more  than
articulate  the "truth",   the "truth"   we feel is deeply
embedded  in  us in ways which cannot be  changed  through
just  the  use  of  words and   abstract   symbols.    The
emotional  "truth"     which  we internalize  as  children
cannot be amended through  purely intellectual, cognitive,
rational,   mathematical,   scholarly and   other  similar
procedures.    The healthy amendments  to  our  misleading
childish  "truths"    can  only  be  accomplished  through
procedures which are powerful in the  ways  which embedded
the childish "truths";   in affective,  emotional, loving,
supportive, and sympathetic ways.

     Recovery  from  the misleading childish "truths"   of
our  dysfunctional families of origin and families within,
is  a balanced  process which draws on all dimensions   of
life,   not   from   any   exclusive   domain   which   is
regarded  as superior in some childish way.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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