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 %SELF RIGHTEOUS FOCUS COERCION DISINTEGRATE SHOULD 910112

     Self-righteous  people focus their attention,  energy
and  effort   on making people do what they  think  people
should do,   and so self righteous people tend to  promote
personal and communal disintegration.

     In  contrast,   personal and communal  integrity  are
promoted  by  humble  people focusing their attention  and
energy  on respecting:

     1.  Honesty in all inter-personal relationships.

     2.  Non-manipulative and non-conformal behaviors.

     3.     Facilitators  of  secure  contexts  for   open
dialogue.

     4.  Seekers of mutually satisfying cooperation.

     5.  Non-manipulative affection, intimacy and sex.

     6.  Helping people to take good care of themselves.

     7.  Work towards inter-cultural mutual understanding.

     8.  Creative win-win conflict resolution.

     9.  Honestly learning through mistakes & forgiveness.

     10.     Dynamically  balanced  living   and   growing
together.

     Most  people  who  are  preoccupied  with  "shoulds",
"don'ts", "prohibitions",     "taboos",    "conformities",
"non-conformities",          "guilts",           "shames",
"punishments",   "rewards"     and  similar  concerns  are
compulsive  in  their preoccupations;    and contribute to
personal  and   communal  disintegration   through   their
efforts,  whether their pre-occupations are affirmative or
negative.

     Honestly  humble  people do not try to be in control.
By  being   and   simply taking good care of   their   own
unique  selves  with integrity,   they contribute more  to
personal and communal integrity,  than do those people who
work very hard   and  sacrificially  to  make  people   be
good  and successful.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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