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%LACK AFFECTION OBJECTIFICATION BIAS CHILD PARADIGM 901223

     People  who  have   lacked  affection   and  love  in
their childhood   often  for  that  reason   focus   their
adult   attention    upon    impersonal     objects    and
objective considerations;    for  emotional reasons   they
choose    an  impersonal    focus   for    their    lives.
Because of  that emotionally    based   choice  they  come
to believe   that  impersonal  realities  are  more basic,
fundamental,   real,  and  important  than  are subjective
personal   realities.   Having  made   those   choices and
having   arrived   at   the  central   beliefs  of   their
objective   paradigm,     they   then  believe   that  the
objective  evidence  which  they  find  is   an   unbiased
foundation  upon  which  to base their belief   that their
beliefs    about  the  superiority  of   objectivity   are
beliefs which  are  well grounded in  objective  evidence.
They cannot see that their paradigm and belief system   is
rooted in and founded  upon the depersonalizing  realities
of their  childhood,   in which the lack of affection  and
love left them emotionally impoverished.   The beliefs  of
their objective  paradigm are but  mixed-up echoes of  the
conclusions  which they arrived at in  their  impoverished
childhood.   To arrive at unbiased beliefs upon  which  to
base their adult lives,  they need to seek help in healing
the members of the impoverished family living within  them
due to their own personal histories.

     People    who    are    imprisoned   in   exclusively
objective  paradigms   need  to  seek  to  balance   their
paradigm  with  the  insights  which people who have known
love   and  affection can offer.  The truth about balanced
living  cannot be  found  through  the  efforts of  people
trapped in  the objective paradigms. The truth is found in
balance,  not in exclusive beliefs  about  the superiority
of one's own beliefs  and paradigm.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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