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 %DESIRE CONTROL FEEL EMOTION AFFECT ADDICT SCI ZEN 901013

     People  who  desire to control feelings,    emotions,
and   affective    behavior   find   themselves   in    an
impossible  situation;    for  feelings,    emotions   and
affective  behavior  cannot   be  controlled.    When  one
technology for attempting to  control  fails,  such people
seek another  technology.  They cannot believe that it  is
impossible to find,  invent, create,   or meaningfully use
some  technology   to  control feelings,    emotions   and
affective  behavior.    They  are compulsively  driven  by
the  desire  to be in control.    Can they find a  way  to
control their desire to be in control?

     Can  addicts  and  codependents  who  are  driven  by
the  compulsive   desire   to be in control find  ways  to
control  their  frustrations  when  they fail to   control
as   they  believe  that  they should  control,   want  to
control,    should be  able  to control,   etc?   If  they
cannot find  physical means to control,   they seek  other
means;    psychological,  chemical,  economic,  political,
religious, spiritual, etc.

     So   long  as  the desire to be in  control  and  the
desire   to  enjoy   being  in   control  drives   people;
they  will  be frustrated   by  their  misguided  desires,
and  by  the impossibility  of fulfilling their compulsive
desires   in satisfactory ways.  If the  desires  persist,
such  people  are  driven   to  try   more   diverse   and
extreme    techniques  involving  the use  and  abuse  of:
alcohol,  drugs,  work, sex, people,    money,   political
power,     leadership   positions,   natural    resources,
fuels,    minerals,     scientific instruments,   military
weapons,    etc.   They are all wasted away by  compulsive
unhealthy desires.

     The  desire  to be in control of desires,    and  the
desire  to  be in control of the fulfillment  of  desires;
both lead to frustrations,    because such desires lead to
strange  loops  of  logic and to efforts which  ultimately
makes  no  sense and are devoid of real human meaning.

     The   desire  to  be in  control  may  be  intimately
related  to the belief that one has a responsibility to be
in control;  and  so  in  turn the desire to be in control
may   be   an  expression  of  the  desire  to  fulfill  a
responsibility to be in  control---as a means to achieving
salvation  within  the  paradigm/power  which   presumably
created the responsibility to be in control.   The  desire
to be in control may thus be masked as a responsibility to
be in control.   Such a sense of  responsibility (which is
in reality a masked desire to be in control)  has much the
same tragic effects as a more honest and openly  expressed
desire to be in control.

     The   masked  desire  to  be in control may in   turn
be   a  response to the belief that there is  an  Ultimate
Power   in  the   universe  which  seeks  to  control  our
behavior   through  threats  of  eternal   punishment  and
promises   of   eternal reward  if we don't/do conform  to
Her   ultimate  standards for  good,     moral,    proper,
respectable  behavior.    Our attempts  to  be in  control
are  then but tragic echoes  of the belief that She  seeks
to  control our behavior.  Such is not  the nature of  She
who gave birth to the universe  and who eternally  engages
in the works of Love.

     God is not ultimately objective in Her nature,    nor
in Her relationships.    God is not the ultimate scientist
nor  the  ultimately  powerful and  competent  technocrat.
God is not the supreme addict nor the supreme codependent.
God is not the most powerful colluder.

     God   manifests  the ultimate powers of Her  universe
through   Love,     Power,    Justice,    Truth,    Grace,
Integrity,   and Balance.   The  manifestations of God are
a  threat  to   the beliefs  of  addicts,    codependents,
colluders,     technocrats   and  compulsively   objective
scientists.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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