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  %CONTRIVE RESPONSE SPONTANEITY HONEST CONTROL ZEN 901012

     People   who   are  compulsively  prone   to   engage
in:  systematic, intellectual, rational, logical, devised,
schematic,  contrived,  planned,  and purposed patterns of
behavior  are  unlikely to be:  spontaneous,   responsive,
responsible,   open,  honest,  sympathetic,   trustworthy,
attractive,  likable,  etc.  The two types of behavior are
inconsistent with each other, because the first type leads
to  the  use of defensive and offensive  manipulations  in
efforts to achieve satisfaction and fulfillment;  and such
manipulations  are engaged in at the expense of being able
to  participate  in  the  second  type  of  behaviors  and
relationships.

     The   values   and  ideals  which  characterize   the
manipulative types of behavior,  lead to the sacrifice  of
the  truly personal types of behaviors and  relationships.
The  values  and  ideals  which  characterize  the   truly
personal types of behaviors and relationships, lead to the
avoidance of involvement in coercive manipulative types of
behavior.   The two types of behavior cannot naturally  be
associated with each other.  Any attempts to associate the
two types of behavior with each other are contrived,   and
so  part  of the pattern of the coercive  manipulative  of
behaviors.  Any appearance of association of the two types
of  behaviors  needs  to be examined to see  if  shows  an
overall  pattern  of facilitating  personal  and  communal
integrity;   for the appearance may be  deceptive  through
contrivance.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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