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   %FOUNDATION TRANSCENDENCE DISHONESTY ADDICT LOVE 900929

     The  transcendence of addictive and codependent games
of  mutual  self  deception  must be  based  upon  a  firm
foundation.   Tall structures cannot be built firmly on  a
shaky foundation.

     Transcendence  has  to do with ways of  thinking  and
feeling,    more  than  with  ways  of  manipulating   and
controlling.   Ways  of  feelings  often  follow  ways  of
thinking.  Ways of thinking often follow ways of  feeling.
Both  kinds  of  leadership occur and it is  dishonest  to
pretend  otherwise.  Transcendence is not well grounded on
dishonesty about thinking and feeling.

     Thinking  and feeling often pertain to events in  the
environment;   and to events within the family within  the
self.   Events  within  the  outside  environment  do  not
determine the thinking and feeling within the  environment
within;  although external events may elicit thoughts  and
feelings   in   ways  related  to  the  life  within   the
environment within the family within the self.

     Transcendence  pertains  to the quality of  the  life
within  the environment within the family within,  and  to
how self responds to the events in the environment outside
of  self,   due to the foundations which  have  been  laid
within the life within one's own self. If poor foundations
have been laid within the self,  then the response of self
to  the events in the environment outside the self are not
likely  to be wise;  in thought,  feeling or deed.  It may
seem to self that the events in the environment outside of
self determine the feelings within the self,  and blame is
likely  to  be  projected by  self  into  the  environment
outside  of  self,  for how self feels and  thinks;   even
though  others  cannot have the power to control  how  you
yourself feel and think.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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