This is http://www.essayz.com/a9008111.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TACIT IMPLICIT COVERT COMMUNICATION COLLUSION 900811 It is not possible to limit all human communication to explicit statements which say exactly what they mean and avoid possible additional meanings. Often rich meanings are conveyed by indirection, rather than by overt and explicit statements. The meanings of human communications depend as much upon the expectations, desires, fears and language characteristics of the receiver; as upon those of the sender of the message. The implicit messages which are received are especially dependent upon the expectations, desires, fears and language characteristics of the receiver. The receiver may receive messages which were in no way intended, and the received messages may be contrary to the intentions of the sender of the message. It is important to balance implicit messages with explicit messages; often checking the implicit messages with explicit requests for verifications which will confirm that the implicit messages which seem to have been sent are coherent with the full range of explicit messages which have been sent, received and confirmed. It is the coherent sense of the whole of all messages of all kinds which may be trusted; provided there is balance and there are often requests for confirmation, and there are in turn clear confirmations and/or clarifications. When society becomes an addict and its members are regularly participating in collusions, there are likely to be many implicit messages which are governed by the dishonest rules of the collusion. In such a situation it may be taboo to ask for confirmation of implicit messages received; for to state the central messages of the collusion overtly and explicitly is to make them vulnerable to examination. Collusive messages regarding the collusion are always unspoken, tacit, implicit, implied, read between the lines, assumed, etc. Collusive messages may never be confirmed explicitly, even upon request. To request a confirmation of the tacit messages is to violate the rules of the collusion by asking that the existence of the collusion be made apparent. The less free the members of a community feel free to ask for confirmation of implicit messages, the more likely it is that they are imprisoned in a collusion with its dishonest games of mutual self deception. Confusion is a central tool used for manipulation by addicts and their codependent supporters; and confusion is served by the dominance of unconfirmed messages which are unspoken, tacit, implicit, implied, read between the lines, assumed, etc. People can never be honestly sure about such messages if confirmations are never permitted; but in a collusion it is required that you act as if you are absolutely sure about such messages, even though confirmations are taboo. That is a sure recipe for confusion and frustration! When there is collusive confusion there are indirect ways of seeking confirmation which will not give away that you are beginning to see through and to violate the rules of the collusion. Questions may be asked through indirection, and responses to such questions may reveal whether or not an indirect message which is being checked was really intended and believed. With caution it is possible to discover how honestly others are believing in their participation in the dishonest games of mutual self deception of the collusion. Through such discovery real honest friends may become known, and through cooperative effort friends may escape together from the prison--- through collusion transcending communications become possible. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================