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  %EMOTIONAL CONSTIPATION RISK CONTROL HIDE HONESTY 900804

     In  threatening  contexts people are  prone  to  hide
their  true emotions,  to hold them in,  maybe  to  become
emotionally constipated.  It may seem advisable to try  to
avoid  taking  risks,  and to hide emotions by  trying  to
control the expression of emotions in dishonest ways.

     In  the absence of a communal context which  provides
security  in  the  sense of being free to  be  vulnerable,
people  are  more prone to take the risks  of  dishonesty,
defensiveness   and  manipulations;   than  the  risks  of
honesty,  openness and trust.  Risks will always be taken;
the question is what kinds of risks will be taken.

     Emotions,  thoughts, opinions, perceptions,  desires,
fears,  etc. which are compulsively held in---out of fear,
can lead to various forms of constipation; to an inability
to function smoothly.  Those emotions, thoughts, opinions,
perceptions,  desires,  fears,  etc.  which are likely  to
cause  embarrassment are held in and not let go;   and  so
cannot  be dealt with in a healthy way and then forgotten.
They become foci of preoccupations which are not  healthy;
the cause of great concern.

     The tragedy is that those aspects of our selves which
we  cannot  openly and honestly share  with  others  often
become  so  repressed,   so held in,   that  they  operate
destructively  as  preoccupations  of  our  sub-conscious.
Since we cannot honestly share them with others,  we often
hold  them in so completely that we cannot share them with
the  various aspects of our own self;  we cannot deal with
them  consciously.  Then we cannot be wise regarding them,
and we cannot function with integrity;  so we tend to give
violent expression to our repressed concerns,  we act them
out  destructively,   rather than express them openly  and
honestly within an accepting community of Love.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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