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%PATERNAL PROTECT CHILD DANGER EMBARRASS TRUTH DUTY 900528

     Paternal  responsibility  to  protect  children  from
dangers  does  not  extend  to protecting  them  from  the
embarrassing truths which threaten dominant collusions.

     Such   truths  are  perceived  as  real   dangers  to
participants in collusions; and may be regarded as if they
were  objective threats of a physical sort.   Thus parents
in an addictive society often feel a duty to protect their
children  from threatening truths which are experienced as
being evil threats.

     To avoid  the dangers which are present  in   parents
seeking to protect  children from threatening truths, each
community needs to  educate  its  citizens to recognize in
themselves  and  others  the  dynamics  of  addictive  and
collusive processes so as to be able  to defend themselves
against the  disintegrative  parenting processes  to which
those dynamic processes lead.

     The  dynamics   of   addiction  and   collusion   are
devastating to people  who have not experienced each other
as  being true  in open and honest relationships.  If they
have  not  known  themselves and each other truthfully  in
authentic   intimacy,   they  seek  technical   fixes   as
substitutes in an effort to get what they are missing, but
which they do not know  in any intimate way.  Such efforts
to   achieve  a   fix  are  the  dishonest  processes   of
addiction,   codependence and collusion.   The efforts are
based  upon  distorted  images  of  reality  generated  in
dishonest childhood experiences.

     Parents in an addictive society are often victims  of
childhood experiences of dishonest abuse, and they usually
have not transcended such experiences.  They often seek to
protect their own children  from such abuse,  and in their
turn  seek to do so  in  dishonest  ways  which lead to  a
repetition of the cycle of abuse and addiction.   To break
the  cycle  of abuse  and addiction young people  need  to
transcend their experiences of childhood abuse before they
become parents and  abuse  the next generation of children
in  another  cycle  of  the dynamic process of  addiction,
codependence  and collusion.   The dynamics of the process
need to be honestly recognized, named, described and dealt
with.  Without names and honest descriptions it is hard to
deal creatively with the disintegrative process.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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