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 %IMPORTANCE DETACH ADDICTIVE CODEPENDENT ATTITUDES 900220

     If  we are the victims of any pattern  of  addictive,
codependent  and collusive attitudes and behaviors we  may
need  to detach ourselves in mind,  body,  and spirit from
the  context  of that pattern;  as part of the process  of
regaining  a  healthy  outlook on life  and  our  creative
potentials.

     Yet,  we may be tempted to remain within the  context
to fight the evil which we see; to overcome it through our
diligent  and  sacrificial  efforts.  Yielding to  such  a
temptation  is  likely  to  lead  us  to  continue  to  be
preoccupied  with  the very patterns from which  we  would
like to escape and must escape from to be healthy.  To  be
preoccupied   in   a   combative  mode   with   addiction,
codependence and collusions,  is to be imprisoned by their
attitudes  and  spirit;   their patterns  of  thought  and
behavior.   To try to be "good"  people by fighting  their
evil  is  not different than to be fighting with  them  as
"evil" people in alienative ways.

     "Good"   addicts,  codependents and  colluders  fight
"evil"   addicts,  codependents and colluders according to
the rules of addiction, codependence and collusions. Their
battles  are  incarnations  of the essence  of  addiction,
codependence and collusions. The battles are not won; they
are lost by all the combatants. The battles do not lead to
resolution  of  conflicts,   but to  the  continuation  of
conflicts  and alienation.  To win we must disengage  from
the combat,  and seek serenity,  tranquility and  rebirth-
recreation  through prayer which is authentic rather  than
conformal.  The battles end when the combatants disengage,
detach  and withdraw as expressions of mutual respect  and
love.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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