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 %OVER COMMIT DEBT BUSY TIRED STRAIN STRESS PERFECT 900113

     People who are not honest with themselves and  others
often  over-commit  themselves (overtly,  implicitly,   in
expectations,   etc.)   with  regards  to  spending  their
personal time,  money, resources, etc.  They try to do too
much,  push themselves too hard,  go into debt to buy more
than they can pay for, seek perfection,  stress themselves
into disease,  are excessively generous, etc.  They do not
budget well.

     Such people are often idealists who are not realists.
They often try to help people more than they can. They are
overly  generous  of  themselves and  their  resources  in
unhealthy  ways.  They seek to achieve  salvation  through
generosity   which  they  cannot  afford  and   which   is
unhealthy.

     The  strain of trying to maintain the  appearance  of
being able to do all that they commit themselves to,  is a
big burden to such people.  It is difficult to appear able
to  do what one cannot do;  and this deception is a strain
on  top  of  the drain of energy to try to  keep  up  with
commitments made.

     Such  a  strain can operate within a person  with  no
actual observers to be impressed.  A person's own internal
"parent"   within  can  play the role of  observer  to  be
impressed.   Self-respect may demand carrying  through  on
commitments  made  to self to do more than is possible  to
do; and to maintain the appearance that the impossible was
possible.   Such  dishonesty  often lead  to  disease  and
disintegration.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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