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%CREATIVE WITHDRAWAL MEDITATION ADDICTION TRANSCEND 891225

     The   creative  person  with  profound  insight   may
withdraw  from  the  presence of members of  an  addictive
society to meditate and detach from their collusive  games
of mutual self deception. An addictive person may withdraw
from  the  presence of healthy members of  an  integrative
society   to  concentrate  upon  personal  games  of  self
deception  and illusion which characterize  the  addictive
personal  process  of  isolation.   It  is  not  easy   to
distinguish  the  two ways of withdrawal;  either  as  the
person  who  withdraws,  or as those people from whom  one
withdraws.

     Withdrawal  to spend time in  integrative  meditation
may  be the way to honesty with self,  and  so  eventually
with others.  In honest meditation we may become in  touch
with  our authentic self,  and therein recognize  our  own
addictive tendencies and processes for what they are.   In
honest  meditation away from the coercive expectations  of
addicts   and   codependents  we  may  find  the  way   to
authentically  being  our own selves.  In  the  confidence
which comes with being authentic, we may return with power
to   be   ourselves  in  authentic  intimacy  within   new
relationships   which   are  personal,    open,    honest,
vulnerable, and secure.

     Withdrawal     from    true personal    relationships
into manipulative objective relationships is likely to  be
the  way to illusions of control over realities which  can
not be controlled. In manipulative objective relationships
(even  if  they involve persons)  we lose touch  with  our
authentic  self  and  authentic others,   and  regard  our
addictive  tendencies and objective processes as the  keys
to  truths about ultimate reality.  The more alienated  we
are  from  others  as  authentic  persons,   the  more  we
desperately seek that which we miss---seeking the  unknown
which  we  yearn for,  through  manipulative  rituals  and
objective procedures which bring us temporary illusions of
well-being followed by nights of pain,  depression,  fear,
and desperation. We become less and less confident that we
are  anybody,   and  further withdraw  from  the  intimate
personal  relationships which we crave;  but which we fear
because we cannot control them,  or be sure that they will
turn out as we wish and plan.

     Recovery  involves the discovery of fail-safe  secure
contexts  in  which  we  can  be  authentically  ourselves
because it is safe to be vulnerable there.  Such  contexts
are  not characterized by manipulative people seeking  the
illusion  of  being in control when and where  control  is
foolish and impossible.  Recovery can begin when we  admit
to ourselves that our present way has a dead end. Recovery
begins  with the seeking out of fail-safe secure  personal
contexts  in  the  faith that they  may  exist.   Recovery
continues  in the discovery of and gradual growth of trust
within  such  secure contexts for vulnerability.   Therein
defensive  procedures may be relaxed.  Therein attempts to
be in control become irrelevant.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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