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%JACK INTERNAL CONFLICT MIND VISION BODY LIMITS JOY 890616

     Jack is experiencing internal conflicts between  what
his  mind envisions and his imagination desires on the one
hand,   and what is possible within the limits of his body
and  the available resources to him.   Jack does not  know
how  to  resolve conflicts.   Jack is  frustrated  and  is
wearing  himself  out  in futile efforts  to  fulfill  his
impossible dreams.

     Jack  has  been  encouraged  to  attempt  to  achieve
impossible  dreams of idealistic perfection in:   physical
strength,  form and appearance;  masculine achievement and
enjoyment,  financial success, feminine attentions, family
success,  etc.   Jack has not been taught how to sort  out
the  possible  from  the impossible dreams,   and  he  has
internalized  impossible dreams without respect for  human
limitations.

     Among  other  considerations Jack  wants  to  achieve
control   over  his  own  and  other  people's   thoughts,
feelings,  desires,  fears,  associations,   fulfillments,
ideals,  values, knowledge, understanding, etc.   Jack has
dreams  of  visionary accomplishments under his  direction
and control, in accordance with his ideals and values.

     Jack's  problem is that he does not know how to  tell
the  difference  between  what is  possible  and  what  is
inherently  impossible by virtue of limited human  powers,
time,  energy,  resources, knowledge, skills,  and wisdom.
Jack is experiencing conflicts between his intentions  and
what is possible for humans to achieve.

     As  an addict Jack is confused and out of touch  with
reality because of his dishonest habits of mind and heart.
Jack  and  his  significant  codependent  supporters   are
playing  a  game of mutual self deception  regarding  what
they can achieve and control.   Mostly they are trying  to
control each other's associations,  experiences, thoughts,
feelings,  perceptions, insights,  etc.   to protect their
collusive   game   of  mutual   self   deception.     They
compulsively  feel a need to fulfill their own unrealistic
ideals  and values as the way to joy and salvation.   They
do  not know the joy and salvation of knowing  each  other
intimately in open and honest dialogue.   They are seeking
an  idealistic  alternative through some  achievement  and
control.

     Jack does not know his own feelings and thoughts, for
they  would  undermine the appearance of integrity in  his
and others' collusions.  Jack does not know his own powers
and  limitations,  for such knowledge would undermine  the
appearance  of  integrity in his and others'   collusions.
Jack  is  ignorant of much that he needs to know  to  make
wise  decisions  and to achieve that which is  within  his
power  to  achieve.   Such knowledge would  undermine  his
collusion   which  apparently  points  the  way   to   his
achievement  of joy and salvation.   Jack is  compulsively
looking for the pot of gold at the end of the very big and
distant  rainbow.   Jack thinks of that rainbow as a  real
object  which can be attained and controlled to bring  joy
and fulfillment.   Jack thinks that only fools regard that
achievement as impossible.  Jack is giving his life in his
effort  to achieve and control the  impossible  perfection
which he sees in the big and distant rainbow.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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