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  %HUMILITY ACCEPT LIMITATIONS HONEST LEARN MISTAKE 890516

     The humble person does not engage in pretense of  any
kind.   The  humble person does not pretend to be less  or
more than they really are. The humble person accepts their
own  unchangeable  characteristics and wisely  works  with
them in an open and honest way.  The humble person has  no
problem with learning from their own mistakes.

     People   who  engage  in  pretense  have   difficulty
profiting  from  their own mistakes;  they try  to  appear
to  be  different than they really are.   Few  pretentious
people are able to acknowledge  their own mistakes even to
themselves,   and   so they cannot learn  from  their  own
mistakes.    They pretend  to  be  perfect and cannot deal
with    their   own  imperfections.      Thus   they   are
imprisoned    by   their imperfections,   rather than free
to   work  creatively  within  the  context  which   their
imperfections create.

     Some  pretentious  people pretend to lack  abilities,
skill and knowledge which they really have.  They are  not
free  to make the contributions which they might otherwise
make.   They pretend to be humble with false modesty which
imprisons  them  in  a role to which  they  are  not  well
suited.  Appearing to be incompetent is not the essence of
humility.   The  humble  person is free to  appear  to  be
competent if that is what they really are.

     The  competent person who is humble feels no need  to
use  their  competence as a club with which to  put  other
people  down.  The competent person who is humble does not
lack self esteem and does not try to achieve a high  level
of  self  esteem  by putting others down with  parades  of
competence.   The  competent person who is humble  honesty
places  their competence in the humble service  of  others
who can accept such service honestly.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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