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%EVIL DYNAMICS THREAT REJECT ALIEN SHUN COMMUNICATE 890507

     One  of  the  major roots of  personal  and  communal
disintegration  is  the threat of rejection from  communal
dialogue  used as a technique/tool to get members  of  the
community to conform.

     Such threats are dysfunctional tools/techniques; they
do not accomplish that which they ostensibly are  designed
to  accomplish.   They generate more rebellion  than  they
generate  conformity.   They  generate the  appearance  of
conformity,   but the apparent reality which they generate
is the hidden opposite to conformity.

     Threats of rejection disintegrate the people who  are
threatened;  leading them to appear one way and to  become
something quite different.  The people who are  threatened
live split/fragmented lives.  They cannot be trusted to be
open  and honest in their communications.  It is risky  to
believe what they to lead you to believe.

     In  this  way those people who issue the  threats  of
rejection  become alienated from the people whom they  try
to control through alienative tools and techniques.

     Rejection  and  threats of  rejection  are  reflexive
tools;  i.e., they affect those who threaten and reject by
how they affect those who are the intended victims of  the
actions.  Rejection and threats of rejection victimize all
who  are  thereby  alienated.  Rejection  and  threats  of
rejection  are  dysfunctional tools which are  essentially
evil.

     Adults  who were threatened and rejected as  children
are   affectively   wounded  adults.   Mere   intellectual
understanding  of  the  wounds does  not  fully  heal  the
wounds.   The  wounds  are  healed  only  through  genuine
reconciliation,   forgiveness  and  mutual  acceptance  as
victims of the threats and rejection.  Guilt and shame are
not   eliminated  through  exclusively  intellectual   and
scholarly activities.

     Guilt often involves self rejection in fulfillment of
misguided  ideals and values which threaten  rejection  as
the  just punishment for a failure to conform to what  are
regarded  to good injunctions.  When such injunctions  are
issued  in  a collusive  addictive/codependent  community,
they lead to evil behavior on the part of all the  victims
of  the dynamic processes which are put into motion.   The
participants victimize themselves in reflexive ways  while
thinking/feeling  that  they are behaving  objectively  in
conformity  to  proper standards of behavior.   They  feel
guilty  when  they do not conform to what they  regard  as
proper  standards of behavior;  yet it is those  standards
which are leading them in alienative behaviors.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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