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   %SECURE FREEDOM KNOW REFLEXIVE SELF RELATIONSHIP 890130

     Integrative communities give their members the secure
freedom to know themselves,  each other and their intimate
relationships in reflexive ways.

     Addictive  and  codependent  communities  put   their
members   on  the  defensive  regarding  their   reflexive
knowledge of themselves and their intimate relationships--
for such knowledge is a threat to the games of mutual self
deception  which define the paradigms of collusive addicts
and codependents.

     Highly   regulated  collusions  lead  to   compulsive
behaviors which are disintegrative because of the violence
which is characteristic of the manipulations and coercions
of  collusive regulations.  In highly regulated  collusive
communities people can not be permitted to be free to know
themselves  or  their intimate relationships in  open  and
honest  reflection---for  such  reflexive knowledge  is  a
threat to the dishonest community's most basic  technique;
mutual self deception.

     Integrity  can  not be achieved through  mutual  self
deception.   Integrity is what people seek most earnestly.
Collusive addicts,  codependents,  and technocrats pretend
that they can achieve what people most earnestly seek, but
presume  it  can be achieved through increased effort  and
sophistication  which entail mutual self deception  as  an
essential technique. The logical impossibility of the task
is not seen because the paradigm defines the perception of
the impossibility as a taboo experience.

     The  enjoyment  of communal integrity  is  impossible
without  the transcendence of such collusive taboos.   The
transcendence of such collusive taboos is a miracle to the
colluders  who  define the perception  of  most  reflexive
truths  to be taboo.  Such an escape from their  collusive
prison  is perceived as impossible and terrifying  in  the
subconscious;   yet it is not perceived in  any  conscious
way.   Those  who  escape are perceived  as  traitors  who
threaten  the pseudo integrity of the collusion  which  is
the  only  powerful  reality  which is  known  inside  the
paradigm.   Those  who  escape perceive their  escape  and
salvation as a miracle given to them and accepted  without
conditions;   not the technical achievement of  a  desired
and/or intended goal,  purpose or ideal.  Salvation is not
the technical achievement of a desired goal.  Salvation is
the acceptance of the secure freedom to know ourselves and
our intimate relationships reflexively.  Such knowledge is
taboo according to our collusions from which we need to be
freed. We do not consciously want salvation, for salvation
is terrifying because it entails the violation of the most
fundamental injunctions of our deceptive ways of collusive
living.

     Conversation in intimate honest dialogue  is a key to
salvation.   In  honest  conversation there is  a  turning
around,  a  conversion, a  revolution,  a  repentance from
mutual  self deception.  Salvation is the escape from  the
prison  of collusive games of mutual self deception  which
characterize   addictive,   codependent  and  technocratic
communities which are disintegrating.

     Families,  communities,  states,  nations and empires
fall  when  they disintegrate through the  propagation  of
collusive, addictive and codependent patterns of behavior.
No technology can compensate for the disintegrative ideals
and   values  which  are  central  ingredients  in   their
respected patterns of behavior. No scholarship or research
within the context of their respected patterns of behavior
can  point the way to integrity.  The goal of personal and
communal  integrity  cannot  be seen therein,  and  so  no
technique can provide the means to achieve the goal  which
cannot be seen.

     To technocrats,   salvation  has to  do with means to
achieve known goals.  To technocrats,  salvation does  not
have  to  do  with accepting the miracle of  the  gift  of
personal and communal integrity for it is perceived as the
terrifying disintegration of technocrats,  ground of being
secure.

     Salvation  can  not be planned.   Redemption  is  not
achieved. Integrity can not be controlled.  Reconciliation
is not a goal,  it is a way of being with integrity. Goals
are  not  dynamic.   Salvation,   redemption,   integrity,
reconciliation,  conversation,  conversion and heaven  are
all dynamic realities which can not be planned,   achieved
or controlled by any person or institution.

     Those who know these truths are free to be themselves
with  integrity within communities of people who are  free
to  know  themselves  and  their  intimate   relationships
reflexively  in  open and honest conversations  which  are
dynamic and so are eternally changing in integrative ways.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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