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  %SELF PUNISH MASOCHIST ADDICT CODEPEND FAIL LEARN 890119

     Some  people through their own decisions and  actions
put themselves in situations which punish themselves. They
do  not  seem to learn from their mistakes  how  to  avoid
putting  themselves into self punishing situations.   They
behave   as  masochists  in  repeatedly  inflicting   upon
themselves  trials and tribulations.  Usually such  people
are  addicted to something:  alcohol,  drugs,  work,  sex,
technology,   power,   food,  codependents,   etc.   Their
masochistic  behavior is part of their addictive behavior,
and vice versa.

     Addicts  challenge their codependents to rescue  them
from  the  situations  into which they put  themselves  by
their  masochistic decisions and possessive actions.   The
greater  the  rescue,   the more the  addict's  needs  for
codependent  support  are fulfilled.  The more foolish  to
masochistic   decisions  and  actions;   the  greater  the
challenge  to  the  codependent is,  and the  greater  the
possibility of a stupendous rescue.

     Each  successful  rescue  of  a  masochistic   addict
teaches  the  addict that the process of making  decisions
leading to self punishing actions is a rewarding  process.
The cycle of such decisions and rewards needs to be broken
for  addicts  and their codependents  to  recover  health,
peace,  and tranquility. The dynamics of the cycle need to
be  recognized,   discussed and  transcended.   This  will
require    greater   openness   and   honesty   than    is
characteristic of the typical addictive society.

     The   recovery  of  health  for  addicts  and   their
codependents  will require the recovery of  the  addictive
society  of  which they are  contributing  members.   Each
member  of  such a society contributes in her and his  own
way to the perpetuation of the pattern of behaviors  which
maintains   addicts  in  their  masochistic  patterns   of
behavior.   Each  needs  to recognize  the  way  they  are
contributing to the dynamic process of disintegration, and
each  needs to learn how to contribute to  a  compensating
process of personal and communal integration.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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