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      %REALIZE CREATE REALITY ATTITUDES ADDICT LOVE 890116

     We  realize  the nature of reality by  the  attitudes
with  which we approach our daily situations.  We  realize
the  nature of our reality both in the sense  of  becoming
aware of it,  and in the sense of making it real by how we
approach and respond to it.

     Personal   realities  are  not  objective  realities.
Personal  realities do not exist independent of the person
who  experiences  and  interprets them.  We can  not  see,
analyze  and  control  personal  realities  as   objective
realities which are separate from our approach, experience
and interpretation.

     Ultimately all realities are experienced personally.

     We   realize what the nature of reality  is   through
our   personal   experiences  which  are   not   objective
experiences.   The ultimate confirmation of the nature  of
reality  is  through  our  personal  experiences  and  our
interpretations of those experiences.

     Our  interpretations of our personal experiences  are
highly dependent upon the attitudes with which we approach
our  experiences  and in terms of which we  interpret  our
experiences.   We thus make real,  realize,  the  ultimate
nature of our reality through the attitudes with which  we
approach reality.

     Each  kind  of  person  realizes their  own  kind  of
ultimate reality: in addiction, codependence, love,  fear,
greed,   anxiety,  etc.  Each person can find  in  reality
confirmation  of  the  attitudes  with  which  reality  is
approached. Each person can confirm the reality which they
expect to find---to a large extent, but not completely.

     We cannot control reality.   We are not ultimately in
control  of the reality which we help to create.  We  only
help  to  create it,  we do not control it.  Our  role  is
significant,   but not ultimate.  Only the wise  learn  to
recognize  what they can,  and what they can  not  change/
control.

     Some  people seek to realize themselves through being
in control of many things and realities which they  cannot
control.   They approach reality with a set  of  attitudes
which  lead to their own disintegration.   Some  attitudes
lead   to   disintegration,   other  attitudes   lead   to
integration.   Manipulative attitudes tend to lead towards
disintegration.  Attitudes which enable,  let us to let go
of  other people and let them honestly be themselves  with
integrity,   are  attitudes which tend to lead us  towards
integration.   Such detachment is not indifference,  or  a
lack of caring. It is a profound expression of Love.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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