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 %LETTING YOURSELF GO BE DO RISK PARADIGM SHOULD DO 881020

     When  an  addict <--->  codependent  <--->   colluder
finally   recognizes  and  discovers  that  the   dominant
paradigm  is not working it becomes possible to understand
the  meaning of letting yourself go,  letting yourself be,
letting your self do,  letting yourself risk is all about:
through   a   revolutionary   (conversion,     redemptive,
salvation) paradigm shift.

     The  addict  tries to go,  be,  do what  others  have
taught  to  expected.   The direction is external  to  the
addict according to expectations,  discipline,   teaching,
law,  rules, legalists, moralists, etc.  The addict cannot
let  go of that conviction until there is an acceptance of
a  revelation  that  the conviction  is  misleading.   The
revelation  is  not  complete until it  is  accepted.   It
appears ultimately risky to accept the revelation; because
of  the  rules  of  the collusive  games  of  mutual  self
deception.

     Letting go is letting go of the rules of the games of
mutual self deception, and beginning to reflexively be and
do  and  risk  what  is essential  to  both  personal  and
communal  integrity.  Letting go becomes possible when  it
becomes  apparent  that the rules of the games  of  mutual
self deception are deadly rules, rules which lead to death
through disintegration.

     Letting God be God in Her role is part of letting go.

     The  legalistic,  moralistic,  ethical addict is  too
busy trying to play God's role to let Her be God.

     When people try to play God's role of knowing what is
good  and  evil,  good and bad,  proper and  improper  the
result is that all the actors become confused about who is
good  and evil,  good and bad,  proper and improper;   and
integrity disintegrates as dialogue disintegrates.

     The  confusion  is  compounded when  people  who  are
trying  to  play the role of God try  to  straighten  each
other  out according to clear convictions regarding  their
knowledge of what is good and evil,  good and bad,  proper
and improper.

     The drama is a tragic drama of disintegration through
rejection  and  excommunication.  Often the actors do  not
understand  the  meaning of their drama.  They play  their
parts  without  reflexive understanding.  They try  to  be
objective  about their parts in the drama,  and so do  not
reflexively  understand the personal reflexive meaning  of
their parts.

     The   tragedy is that the personal reflexive  meaning
of the drama can  be clear to those who become willing  to
reflect upon it in quiet moments of prayer and meditation.
It  is not clear to those who are  compulsively  concerned
about whether people are playing their roles properly.  It
is not clear to those who are compulsively concerned  with
the knowledge of objective truth and goodness.  The  fruit
of that tree is disintegrative and so is rotten. Eating of
that  fruit  is sickening because it leads  to  addiction,
codependence and collusive games of mutual self deception.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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