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  %REFLEXIVE FAIL SUCCESS ADDICT CODEPENDENT OBJECT 880919

     Human success and failure depend upon the presence or
absence   of  open   and   honest   reflection   upon  the
consequences  of previous attitudes,  thoughts,  feelings,
decisions, actions and communications.

     Auto-regulation depends upon reflexive behavior which
is  not  objective  in  character.    Reflexive   behavior
reflects  back  upon what self has done,  thought,   felt,
decided, desired, viewed self as, etc.   In the absence of
knowledge  about self one cannot make successful decisions
relating  to  self.    Success in any venture  relates  to
reflexive behaviors which are not objective behaviors.

     Upon   what   principles  can  successful   reflexive
behavior be based?

     Success cannot be based upon a compulsive  motivation
to  be objective under all circumstances,  because such  a
motivation   leads  to  collusive  games  of  mutual  self
deception  regarding  the basis of success;   i.e.,   self
deception regarding the value of reflexive behavior.  When
self  cannot be honest with self about the reflexive basis
for success,  then failure lies ahead.   The failures  may
not  be  recognized because of collusive games  of  mutual
self  deception,   but they can be real  and  destroy  the
players of the game even so.

     Addiction  to  and  codependence within the  myth  of
objectivity  are  very dangerous ways   to  approach life.
Those who follow leaders of the myth   and objectivity are
being lead into ultimate failure, not to ultimate success.
Ultimate  failure  entails ultimate  disintegration,   not
ultimate  integration.    To avoid ultimate disintegration
participants in collusive  games  of mutual self deception
need to reflect upon  the  nature  of their addictions and
codependence,  to learn from their failures,  and to  make
decisions to act in well informed ways.

     Well  informed decisions must be based upon knowledge
of  what  motivates  self  and other,   as  well  as  upon
knowledge  of  how forces act between impersonal  objects.
Knowledge  of  what  motivates  self  and  other  is   not
objective knowledge;  it is reflexive knowledge of and  by
the subjects of the knowledge.

     The  myth of objectivity does not reflect upon  these
simple  facts of life,  and does not include knowledge  of
these  facts in its process of integration.    The myth of
objectivity leads to  incomplete  integration and  through
uninformed decisions to ultimate disintegration.

     Complete  integration must include an integration  of
objective  knowledge with reflexive knowledge;  all within
an intellectual framework which recognizes the appropriate
roles of each within the whole.  Within such an integrated
whole there will not be competition among different  kinds
of knowledge as to which is ultimate.  The important roles
which  each  kind of knowledge plays  within  the  organic
whole will be recognized and honored.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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