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       %ENVY JEALOUSY GREED CONTROL POSSESSIONS OWN 880418

     When    we   presume   to  be  in  full  control   of
significant  events   in  our  lives  we  open   ourselves
up  to   the alienations of envy, jealousy and greed.

     When  we presume to have a right to control  property
by  virtue of ownership,  and regard the right to  control
as   an   exclusive  right,    we lay the foundations  for
envy, jealousy and greed.

     What  we  have  a right to control  to the  exclusion
of others'   right  to control, the right comes between us
and them;  alienating us from them.   Envy,   jealousy and
greed  act  to alienate people in search   of    exclusive
control through ownership.

     Our  envy,  jealousy and greed cannot   be  satisfied
through ownership and control.   There is never enough  of
anything   to  satisfy the desires of those of us addicted
to have more  than  other people;   because they desire to
have more than we have.   We cannot   all  have  more than
everybody else has.     We  can,  however,  all be members
of a united healthy community free of the desire to be  in
exclusive control of owned possessions.

     Possessiveness   is   an  attitude  in   regards   to
relationships among people and possessions. Possessiveness
is a symptom of insecurity for which possessions are not a
cure.     Possessiveness   leads   to defensiveness    and
insecurity,   not  to  the satisfaction of the  desire  to
possess and control through unambiguous ownership.

     The   cure  for  envy,   jealousy and greed  is   not
the possession of  a  superior   moral   or  ethical code.
Rather,  we need a new set   of attitudes.     We need new
habits of  perception, thought, feeling and response.   We
need  habits  of thought which  do not  include  believing
that  exclusive  control   of  things   and   people    is
desirable.      We need  habits  of perception  which   do
not   see  people as  things  to  be  controlled.       We
need  habits   of feeling which do  not  include   feeling
good   when thinking   about   being   in control.      We
need   habits   of  response which  do  include  listening
actively   and  carefully to    all   forms   of  messages
present  in  our   personal interactions.

     If   we   really  desired to know what   each   other
was perceiving,   thinking,  feeling,  and how others were
in  their  reality   responding;    we  would  not  be  so
preoccupied with possessions, envy, jealousy and greed.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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