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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8804201.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DETACHMENT FROM ADDICTIVE PROCESSES 880420 Addictive processes tend to suck overly responsible people in. Concerned people try to be helpful. Responsible people increase their self esteem by being responsible, fulfilling perceived duties. In the absence of duties to fulfill self esteem might fall. Responsible people seek out responsibilities to fulfill. People who are engaged in addictive processes find their fulfillment in taking advantage of responsible people, giving them many responsibilities to fulfill. When addictive people and overly responsible people cooperate in meeting each other's needs they become a co- dependent addictive union; each offering what the other needs. They become addicted to each other and dependent upon each other in disintegrative ways. By assuming some of the responsibilities of the addict the responsible person encourages the addict to be irresponsible; i.e., not responsive to circumstances and people in honest ways. The codependent "responsible" person assumes the responsibility for protecting the addict from the consequences of being out of touch with reality and people. It is a great responsibility, and so long as the codependent is successful in fulfilling the responsibility self esteem is sustained. The responsibility grows without limit, however, and the strain of being overly responsible becomes debilitating. It is hard for the codependent to find a way to detach from the prison of growing responsibilities. The addict can not see how to assume healthy responsibility; to be truly responsive to circumstances and people, for the co-dependent is in charge of that area of life. That is part of the deal. The addict can not see how to detach from the codependent and become responsibly independent. Detachment is a process of becoming responsible for one's own self and avoiding responsibility for other people in ways which steal from them their unique responsibilities. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================