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  %SELF PUNISH MASOCHIST ADDICT CODEPEND FALL LEARN 880119

     Some  people through their own decisions and  actions
put   themselves  in  situations  by  which  they   punish
themselves.  They do not seem to learn from their mistakes
how  to  avoid  putting  themselves  into  self  punishing
situations.    They  behave  as masochists  in  repeatedly
inflicting   upon  themselves  trials  and   tribulations.
Usually  such  people are addicted to some thing  or  fix:
alcohol,   drugs,  work,  sex technology,   power,   food,
codependents,etc.   Their masochistic behavior is part  of
their addictive behavior, and vice versa.

     Addicts  challenge their codependence to rescue  them
from  the  situations  into which they put  themselves  by
their masochistic decisions and actions.   The greater the
rescue the more the addicts' needs for codependent is, and
the greater the possibility of a stupendous rescue.

     Each  successful  rescue  of  a  masochistic   addict
teaches  the  addict  that  the  process  of  making  self
punishing decisions is a rewarding process.   The cycle of
such decisions and rewards needs to be broken for  addicts
and their codependents to recover their health, peace, and
tranquility.    The  dynamics  of  the cycle  need  to  be
recognized, discussed and transcended.   This will require
greater openness and honesty than is characteristic of the
typical addictive society.

     The   recovery  of  health  for  addicts  and   their
codependents  will  require  the recovery  of  health  for
addicts  and their codependents will require the  recovery
of   the  whole  addictive  society  of  which  they   are
contributing  members.    Each member of  such  a  society
contributes  in her and his own way to the perpetuation of
the pattern of behaviors which maintains addicts in  their
masochistic  patterns of behavior.   Each member needs  to
recognize  the ways in which they are contributing to  the
dynamic process of disintegration, and each needs to learn
how  to  contribute to a recovery process of personal  and
communal integration.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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