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                   %ADDICTIVE CODEPENDENT PRISONERS 880115

     People can become addictive codependent prisoners who
each  compulsively need each other,  and are terrified  at
the  thought  of  being without the advantages  which  the
other offers. Such prisoners fear to be free of the prison
of their dependency upon the other, regarding instead each
other  as  essential to their personal survival.  Each  is
terrified of being incomplete without the other.

     Addicts   typically   seek   protection   from    the
consequences  of their own foolish behavior,   and  depend
upon  the  services of a codependent for such  protection.
The  protection  given within and by a  dishonest  context
undermines  both  personal and communal  integrity.    The
protection  does  not  help the addict learn how  to  cope
independently,    it   undermines   the   possibility   of
independence and integrative honesty.

     The   codependent   typically  seeks   a   sense   of
significance   and   a   personal  meaning   which   seems
unavailable  outside of an addictive relationship.  Living
in  the absence of healthy relationships,  the codependent
knows  no where to turn for the meaning  and  satisfaction
which  is found in the intense and dishonest processes  of
an addictive codependent roller coaster ride,  with all of
its  varied  stimulations.   The  codependent  desperately
needs  to be "loved",  and knows of no other kind of  love
than  what can be acquired in an  addictive  relationship,
with all its destructive dishonesty.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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