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          %SEXUAL COGNITIVE DISSONANCE VS INTEGRITY 870506

     Sexual and cognitive integrity can not be enjoyed  in
the  absence of firm grounds for the integration of sexual
and cognitive living.   The absence of informed  cognitive
discussions   of   personal  sexual  experiences   is   an
indication  of  the  absence  of a  firm  ground  for  the
integration of sexual and cognitive lives.   The existence
of sexual  taboos  and related  collusive games  of mutual
self  deception  is clear evidence of the lack of  a  firm
ground for the integration of sexual and cognitive lives.

     On what basis are sexual desires and behaviors to  be
respected?    Conformity  to  some exclusive  life  style?
Exclusivity  is essentially disintegrative and not  worthy
of respect.   Conformity to some cognitive system taken to
be  ultimate?    Such creations of man may be  treated  as
idols,  but they are not the grounds for integrity.    All
too often they  are  the grounds  for mutual condemnation,
rejection and alienation.  Total freedom to be and do what
desires  demand?    Such a notion inevitably leads to  the
powerful  people  becoming  violent  and so leads  to  the
disintegrating the grounds for mutual respect and concern;
and  thus  to  the disintegration  of  whatever  integrity
healthy sexuality may motivate.

     The  grounds  for  the  integration  of  sexual   and
cognitive  living must not be the grounds for the personal
condemnation and rejection of  people  who  have different
sexual and cognitive experiences; for such grounds can not
be the grounds for the integration of diverse people  into
an integrated community.    Integrity  and integration can
not be grounded in absurdity!

     The   grounds  for  the  integration  of  sexual  and
cognitive  living  must  be  of  such a  character  as  to
facilitate open and honest dialogue among people who  have
different  sexual  and  cognitive experiences.   It  is  a
logically  necessary  condition to the  enjoyment  of  the
suggested  integration.    Codes of conduct  which promote
judgmental  behaviors  can  not  be the  grounds  for  the
integration  of sexual and cognitive living.   Systems  of
values which affirm exclusive points of view can not serve
as   the  grounds  for  integration;   for  such   systems
themselves become the grounds  for  excluding  persons who
need to be integrated into the community for it to survive
in a meaningful way.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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