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     What  one  person affirms is often  denied  by  other
people operating within a complementary paradigm  regarded
as   an  exclusively  correct  paradigm.    The   insecure
exclusive    person   is   prone   to   misinterpret   any
complementary  affirmation as a denial of the validity  of
what the exclusive person affirms, and so will work within
the   exclusive  paradigm  to  prove   the   complementary
affirmation  false  and misleading.   If both persons  are
exclusive  in  their   views  of  the  truths   of   their
complementary   affirmations,    both   are   likely    to
misinterpret  each other's affirmations,  not  recognizing
them  as  part  of  the pattern  of  defending  their  own
insecure positions.   They can not actively listen to what
each  other is affirming,  because they are consumed  with
defensive  activity  in an effort to achieve security  for
their  own  exclusive position.   They can not truly visit
each other's homes because they are preoccupied in  making
their own homes secure against each other.   They can  not
truly  achieve  the  security they seek because it can  be
enjoyed only through the  very kind of vulnerability which
they are seeking to defend themselves against.

     People  who are addicted to their own narrow point of
view   feel  a  compulsive  need  to  deny   complementary
affirmations which  can be regarded as significant only if
their own narrow point of  view is NOT recognized as being
comprehensive.    To bolster their own narrow affirmations
addicts tend to overstate the importance of their point of
view  to compensate for their lack of self esteem and lack
of self confidence.   People of low self esteem can gain a
sense  of  importance in knowing  important  truths  which
other people do not know and/or do not appreciate.  Such a
sense of self importance is protected if those of low self
esteem  are  careful  not  to  spread  the  knowledge  too
generously;   keeping it mysterious to all but  their  own
kind.    This may be why scientist do not seek  to  become
fully  helpful teachers.   If they were too successful  in
teaching science it would cease to be mysterious, would be
known by many, and scientists would not be able to bolster
their low self esteem by the knowledge that they know what
few others are bright enough to learn.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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