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       %INTEGRATIVE DESIRES & COMMUNAL EXPECTATIONS 870330

     Blessed  are those who enjoy integrative desires  and
communal  expectations of the fulfillment of those desires
in integrative ways,  for they are free to know each other
with  both  personal  and communal integrity  in  intimate
relationships which  involve  both  vulnerability and true
security.

     Dammed are those  who  are driven  by healthy desires
and  instincts  which because of collusions are taboo  and
feared  with  ignorant  apprehension by those who are  not
familiar with them or their consequences; for they are not
free  to know each other with either personal or  communal
integrity.   So  many  people  are  dammed  to   defensive
relationships   which  involve  both   vulnerability   and
insecurity which is heightened by defensive technologies.

     Communities  which  enjoy both personal and  communal
integrity  are  blessed with ideologies  which  bless  and
guide  healthy desires  and instincts in integrative  ways
which set them free to  bring  people together in coherent
ways   which  fulfill   creative  possibilities  and  give
significant meaning  to  all the participants.    In  such
communities   expectations   are  not  at  variance   with
possibilities  and probabilities;  coercion is not blessed
by  any  legalistic  system of morality or ethics.    When
people  are coerced to make them be "good"  the  resultant
disintegration occasions a felt need to use more coercion.

     When  people's  natural  desires  and  instincts  are
integrated  in  coherent  ways  a secure  context  emerges
within   which  people  feel  free  to  be  vulnerable  in
cooperative efforts to deal with their failures to fulfill
their ideals and goals with  due respect for both personal
and communal integrity.   There  is in such an integrative
context  no  felt  need for  coercion  and  defensiveness.
Members  of  such  a  community are free to  take  it  for
granted   that  they  are  all  working  for  a   profound
unification of the  community.    They do not suspect each
other  of  non-conformal  perversities  which  they   have
learned  to  fear.    They do not expect each other to  be
disintegrative, and by and  large they are not.   They are
blessed with integrative instincts and desires.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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