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     Behaviorists try to understand other people in  terms
of  their  behavior,  rather than in terms of  what  other
people say about themselves.

     It  may be helpful to understand our own behavior  in
terms of our responses to other people's behavior,  rather
than  in terms of our responses to what they have said  to
or about us.

     Humans are gregarious.   Humans fear rejection,  loss
of  community.   Humans fear alienation which  flows  from
rejection.   Thus,  humans behave in ways to try to  avoid
the alienation of rejection.  We feel compelled to do what
it takes to avoid rejection and alienation.  We are driven
to do according to our fears of rejection if we do not do.
We  are  driven  to  not  do according  to  our  fears  of
rejection  if we do do.   We may be under the tension of a
conflict  of conflicting fears about doing and  not  doing
the same things.

     Other  people's  behaviors may have instructed us  on
the one hand to do some act.  Yet other people's behaviors
may  have instructed us on the other hand to do  the  same
act  as a rebellion against those who command that  we  do
it.   Both sets of other people threaten to reject us;  on
the  one  hand for doing what is forbidden,  on the  other
hand for failing to rebel against the taboo as a symbol of
solidarity  with  the rebels.   We fear rejection on  both
counts and are under internalized conflict.

                                                                                                                               
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