This-essay is a8010181.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %PROPER CONVENTIONAL EMOTIONS 801018 Cultures prescribe proper conventional emotions. We learn how to feel in certain situations, just as we learn how to behave in certain situations. We learn how it is proper to respond emotionally to specific behaviors in certain contexts, just as we learn to say seven in response to "two plus five" in the context of an arithmetic class. Such emotional responses are conventional, not thoughtful. If we have learned to respond negatively to unconventional behavior---even non- violent, non-destructive behavior---then we are likely to respond negatively to unconventional behavior no matter how innocent and harmless it may be. We may have been taught to feel threatened by unconventional behavior, even though the behavior will not necessarily cause us any harm. We may have learned to equate our feeling of being threatened---with actually being threatened with harm---by watching our role models behave in such terms. The violence of conventional propriety is grounded in people's feeling threatened by unconventional behavior which is perceived and felt as threatening. The conventions which define proper emotional responses to unconventional behavior, are violent conventions---doing more violence to those who observe and rebel against them, than unconventional behavior does violence to emotionally immature people. The violence which is experienced by people who feel threatened by unconventional behavior, is internal violence; violence rooted in the lack of integrity of the emotional response pattern which has been internalized by the person who feels threatened by unconventional behavior. Not all unconventional behavior is proper and wise. Emotionally immature people have a difficult time distinguishing between legitimate and illegitimate unconventional behavior. No legalistic system can adequately define propriety in a way which will help emotionally immature people to distinguish between legitimate and illegitimate unconventional behavior. Conventional emotional response patterns can overwhelm cognitive processes---and lead to irrational behavior when people feel threatened by unconventional behavior which is not objectively threatening. There are no technical solutions to this dilemma. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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