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%NURTURING DESIRES/BEHAVIOR 800228
To the thoroughly objective annalist desires do not
exist. Desires are not objective realities, and may
properly be ignored. Only behavior can be known, and
properly attended to. The thoroughly objective person
thus seeks to control behavior, without regard to desires.
Laws, constraints, rewards, punishments, etc. are devised
according to objective research to control behavior,
without seeking to be in dialogue about desires. Person
to person reflexive communication is neglected.
An alternative way is to nurture healthy desires
which motivate wise behavior, letting the behavior flow
spontaneously from healthy desires. This does not mean
manipulating desires unilaterally. It means intimate
personal dialogue in which healthy desires are affirmed
and given opportunity for expression. Dialogue tends to
moderate unhealthy asocial desires, and to promote healthy
social desires. Dialogue is mutual. In the absence of
mutuality there is no dialogue. Nurturing healthy desires
is a mutual process, taking place in dialogue.
Manipulation may be reciprocal, yet not be truly mutual.
People may manipulate each other---without engaging in
truly mutual relationships, without being in open and
honest dialogue. Mutuality involves openness, honesty,
candor, affection, respect, gentleness, etc. Through
mutuality in dialogue we may nurture each other's healthy
desires and free them to motivate wise behavior in
spontaneous ways.
Desires are neither good nor evil. We do no favor to
pass judgment upon desires---so as to call them good or
evil. Promoting dialogue is good. Inhibiting dialogue is
evil. All other judgments about good and evil follow. It
is good to be in dialogue about desires. It is evil to
inhibit dialogue about desires. Dialogue regarding
unhealthy desires is the means for promoting more healthy
desires. Unhealthy desires/thoughts which are not shared
in dialogue---may in alienation lead to action which will
further inhibit dialogue. Desires which are nurtured in
alienation because they are not "proper"---may grow into
alienative behavior and occasion people to believe that
the desires were themselves "evil", rather than recognize
that the inhibition of dialogue about the desires was
evil. Confusion about the nature of evil occasions
inhibition of dialogue, which inhibition is evil, even
though the confusion is not itself evil.
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