This-essay is a7907051.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %DEPENDENT LOVERS' COLLUSION IDENTITY CURIOSITY+790705 %IMAGINE RELATIONSHIP PERSON JACK 790705 JACK: "I love you so much that I won't let any other woman into my life" = "I have no identity or interests which are not wrapped up in you, and I would prefer to die rather than live without you. I have nothing to bring to our relationship which is uniquely mine and independent of our relationship." JILL: "It makes me feel so good to know that you won't be running off with some other woman." = "I am so insecure that it terrifies me to think of the risk of you finding out that some other woman was more interesting in some way, than I am. I am so dependent upon you that I could not make it in the world without your support." JACK: "Promise that you will love me forever." = "Promise that you will never try to get out of this collusion and become self supporting and able to make it on your own. I need you dependence to insure that you will stay with me and maintain my personal identity." JILL: "I would never think of not loving you!" = "I will help you enforce our collusion and will inhibit my curiosity, imagination, and creativity so as not to imagine the possibility of living as an independent person able to support myself." JACK: "Let's have a big church wedding will all the trimmings." = "Let's get all the members of both our families to join our collusion. Once they have paid for and participated in a big public celebration of our collusions---they will never want to break any aspect of it, or in any way threaten any of our defense mechanisms." JILL: "I would love to have a big church wedding." = "Even though you tell me that you love me, I would feel more secure if our relatives helped us maintain our collusion. It terrifies me to think about what my identity would become if we were not together and dependent upon each other." JACK: "I am sure that Reverend Pious would be glad to perform the ceremony." = "If our collusion is blessed by one of God's agents it can not be broken, for it would sacrilege to break that which is blessed by God." Jill: "Yes, I am sure he would perform a nice ceremony." = "He will help us deepen our collusion by not asking us to face life's creative possibilities realistically and with imagination." (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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