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Sometimes we cannot tell whether or not we have a
problem. If we are compulsive problem solvers---and have
no problem to solve---that may be a problem to us. If we
fear fundamental problems, and are confronted by a basic
problem---out of fear we may refuse to recognize that we
have a problem. If the "problem" belongs to somebody
else, and they do not regard the "problem" as a problem---
that may be a "problem" to us---and its being a "problem"
to us, may be a real problem to them.
If we feel that we cannot be loved unless we have a
certifiable need to be met by another---we may feel that
we have a problem in that we may feel unqualified to ask
for love, without a certifiable need to justify our felt
need for love. If someone offers us love, when we have no
certifiable need for love---it may cause us to have a
"problem", and that "problem" may be a real problem to the
person who loves us. It is not obvious when we do and
when we do not have a problem. It is quite a problem to
recognize when we do (and when we do not) have a problem!
When we do have a problem, it is a problem to
perceive clearly what kind of problem we have. Is the
problem internal to us? Is it in our relationships with
others? Is it in our relationship with our environment?
Is it in our conception of others, ourselves, and/or our
environment? Is it in our conception of our role---what
we and others expect of us? Is it in our choice of goals?
In our access to scarce resources? In how we are using
scarce resources? In our command of techniques?
How we respond to a problem depends upon what we
perceive to be the nature of the problem. If we are
trained to solve only one kind of problem, we are likely
to perceive many problems to be of that nature---
regardless of circumstances. Our training may bias us to
see all problems to be of the one kind that we can solve.
Our bias then is a problem which cannot be solved by the
application of our bias. Our problem is then to seek ways
of transcending our bias by entering into dialogue with
people who do not share our bias. That will be a problem
because we may not share enough in common to understand
each other. The problem then is whether or not we will
value dialogue enough to succeed in entering into
meaningful dialogue.
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