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When we are held responsible for another person's
actions we are encouraged to manipulate that person's
behavior. Our responsibilities are not mutual; i.e. that
person is not responsible for our behavior. Were the
responsibilities mutual, the relationships might be
mutual, yet manipulative. With mutual responsibility for
each other's behavior the desire to manipulate to achieve
success would undermine openness and honesty, even though
not the mutuality of the manipulative processes. Thus
being held responsible for another person's behavior tends
to generate perversions in human relationships---with the
degree of mutuality of responsibility affecting the nature
of the perversions.
Parents who are held (or feel) responsible for the
behavior of their children tend to try to manipulate their
children's behavior. They may differ as to the techniques
of manipulation attempted: physical, overt, covert,
psychological, punishment, reward, threat, promise,
contractual exchange, direct, indirect, verbal, body-
language, morality, religion, etc. The child is bound to
respond in the use of defensive techniques to avoid the
violation of integrity---trying to reciprocally manipulate
the parent, often using techniques learned by watching the
parent's manipulative behavior. Similar situations exist
in relationships between students and teachers, between
teachers and administrators, between religious leaders and
followers, etc.
These considerations suggest the desirability of an
examination of the traditions occasioning the holding of
people responsible for the behavior of others "in their
care". There are costs involved in those traditions, as
well as some advantages. The wisdom of the traditions
cannot be judged without being aware of the costs as well
as the advantages. The costs tend to be occasioned by the
break-down in communication between the manipulator and
the manipulated. The responsibility to control behavior
tends to be regarded as of greater importance than the
responsibility to love the person for whom one is
responsible; i.e., the responsibility to maintain open
channels of communication with that person.
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