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%CONFIDENCE VS FEAR 770310
Fear can be promoted most easily in people who lack
confidence in themselves. The self-confident person,
through integrity, can resist manipulative efforts of
those who would control them through fear of rejection,
punishment, ridicule, violence, etc. The person who lacks
personal integrity in a parallel way lacks self-
confidence. They are not self-defined in any meaningful
sense. Who they are tends to be entirely dependent upon
other people's definitions of what they should be and do,
and therefore upon what they are expected to be and do.
Such expectations tend to be coercive and to undermine
integrity, rather than promote it. Meaningful living
involves self-defining dialogue with others, not coercive
definitions of what should be the nature of all selves.
The person who is trapped in a collusion is not a
free self with integrity. Self is defined by the
collusion without respect for what is unique to the
individual. Participants in the collusion promote mutual
fear of each other --- in order to sustain the security
provided by the collusion without respect for what is
unique to the individual. Participants in the collusion
promote mutual fear of each other in order to sustain the
security provided by the collusion. Because the collusion
has made them emotionally insecure, they need the
technical security provided by the collusion---and
therefore fear to transcend the collusion. It is
ultimately frightening to consider breaking the egg shell
of their collusion and stepping out of such a cracked egg
into the unknown and forbidden world beyond.
Such fear can be transcended only by the generation
of a conviction that instinctive understandings and needs
---pass meaningful judgments upon the pseudo-wisdom of the
collusion. The services performed by the collusion must
be examined and judgment made as to whether they are worth
the price being paid for them. Is it worth surrendering
meaning in return for security? Is it worth surrendering
genuine pleasure in return for certainty? Is it worth
surrendering emotional security in return for the
presumption of technological security? The victims of a
collusion must ask if the collusion is delivering on its
explicit and implicit promises. The recognition of the
breach of contract can help generate the confidence and
integrity necessary to crack the egg shell which defines
the boundaries of the collusion. Such confidence with
love casts out fear of the unknown which is beyond the
shell of the collusion.
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