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                              %DESIRE OR OBLIGATION 761101

     Commonly  people  mistake  obligations  for  desires.
What  we  have  been  taught to want is often more  of  an
obligation than a personal desire.   We "desire"  what  we
should,   out of a sense of duty,   because it is expected
of us.  When this is the case  it is hard to discover what
our  real  self  really  desires.    Introjected   desires
masquerade  as  our  own desires,   and  our  identity  is
confused.

     Introjected obligations may mirror  the conflicts  of
their origins.  Our real personal desires originate in our
whole  being,   and  do  not  conflict  with  each   other
psychologically---even though it  may  not be possible for
practical reasons to fulfill all our genuine desires.  Yet
the tension between them is not so much internal, as it is
external.  It is internal tensions which destroy a person,
not external  tensions.    Thus  internal tensions between
introjected conflicting obligations can destroy a person's
integrity, and so occasion their death.

     In a  society  dominated by duties and obligations it
is hard to avoid the internalization of conflicting duties
and obligations.   A  way needs to be found to   transcend
expectations as the  basic  structuring factor in society,
especially expectations which are coercive in nature,  and
which occasion alienation upon failure to fulfill them.

                                                                                                                               
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