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     Transactions  between  two persons may be mutual  and
contribute  to  a mutual understanding of  the  nature  of
reality.  There may be agreement and concurrence.  In such
a  context  there  are likely  to  be  positive  emotional
responses  and  an inclination to participate  in  further
transactions as opportunities arise.

     Transactions  between two persons may be antagonistic
and  contribute  to a mutual awareness of each  other  and
possibly  a  mutual respect for each other.   In  dialogue
there   may  develop  an  awareness  of  a  disparity   of
understandings   and   efforts  to  change  each   other's
understanding.    In  such conflict there may be  positive
emotional  responses and an inclination to participate  in
further transactions as opportunities arise.

     Transactions between two persons may be  antagonistic
and  generate very negative emotional responses,   and  so
overt attempts at the destruction of each other.   Even in
such attempts (possibly successful) there may be authentic
meeting of a perverted form.

     Transactions between two persons may be tangential in
that  they deny each other's reality in ways so covert  as
to  be  beyond effective defense.  The messages may be  so
hidden  as to be inaccessible to analysis,  and so  beyond
defense.    Sometimes to be ignored is far  more  damaging
than to be attacked.  An attack can be met and dealt with.
It  is  virtually impossible to deal with  associates  who
ignore  you  totally.  It is even more impossible to  deal
with  associates who  ignore you while appearing to  speak
with  you.  The latter is one of the most  dangerous forms
of  violence,  because there is little defense against it.
The  self  may  become  the  victim  of  such   tangential
responses without an awareness of what is happening.

     Alienation  in  association with authoritarian  role-
playing is likely to generate tangential violence. Because
of  alienation  there  is  a  tendency  to avoid authentic
meeting and so authentic listening. An authority figure is
likely  to  ignore what other has said (especially  if  it
threatens  his  child)   and give "responses"   which  are
tangential to the original transaction of the other.  Such
a  denial  of the reality of the other can  undermine  the
possibility  of the development of an  other's  self-image
which  has  integrity.  The other may cease  to  live  and
merely metabolize.

     Science   educators  need  to  take  care  to   avoid
tangential responses to real students' questions.  So long
as  scientists  have  the structure of  science  as  their
dominant  focus,   so long they will continue  to  respond
tangentially to real students.

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