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     In modern society the word "integrity"  is often used
in a derogatory context;  e.g.,  "Are you  questioning  my
integrity?"   Behind  that  usage of the word is  the root
meaning of the word and the insight that people who  don't
have  it  "all  together"  behave in  socially undesirable
ways.   People  who  have it "all together"   tend  to  be
gentle,  humble,  creative, considerate, loving,  helpful,
attractive----they   are  that  way   because   of   their
integrity.

     Disparate   messages  recorded  in   our  childhood's
developmental  stages sow the seeds for the  breakdown  of
integrity.    The child whose parent says nice words about
curiosity and initiative, but who systematically puts down
actual expressions  of such by the child---thereby records
in  the child disparate messages which will  come back  to
haunt the adult  in  later years.  The emotions associated
with  the  original  situations  may  be  relived  without
conscious   recollection,    and  stifle  expressions   of
curiosity and creativity, by destroying motivation,  or by
diverting it.

     Science   teachers  within  the  context  of   formal
instruction may also contribute disparate messages to  the
student's  record  of  life.   Most  often  the  disparate
messages  are  communicated  via contrasting  channels  of
communication:  explicit verbal,  implicit verbal; absence
of expected explicit verbal,  absence of expected implicit
verbal;   eye contact,   absence  of  eye contact;  facial
expressions, absence of facial expressiveness;  posturing,
body  motion;   touching,  absence of touching;   personal
presence, personal absence,  etc.  Non-verbal messages are
often more powerful than are verbal messages.  If there is
a  lack  of congruence between the  various  instructional
messages---the integrity of the student is assaulted.  The
student  is  most vulnerable if unaware  of  the  assault,
dependent upon the assaulter,  and/or relatively powerless
compared to the assaulter.

     Persons  may become freed from the power of  recorded
disparate  messages to destroy their integrity---only with
the   development   of   mutual   awareness   and   mutual
understanding.   With such freedom  comes the power of the
renewed adult to be creative,  to take initiative,  to ask
new  questions,   to solve new problems,  and to engage in
helpful behavior.
                         (c) 1999 by Paul A. Smith in
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