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%SEDUCTION INTO DOMINEERING PEOPLE CONTENTIOUS EVIL 080109
 %DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS ALIENATION VIOLATIONS 080109
%PERSONAL AND COMMUNAL INTEGRATIONS INTEGRITIES GOD 080109
%TRUE LOVERS TRULY TOGETHER WITHIN SHALOM MANY WAYS 080109
 %AUTHENTIC CONFLICT RESOLUTION ROOTS ARROGANCE SIN 080109
%HOSPITALITY GENEROSITY BUILD SANCTUARIES HOSPITALS 080109

            We are trapped in Tragic-Dilemmas

    if we are Preoccupied with How-Others-Will-Respond

  to What-We-Say-And-Do in terms of Real-and-Perceived:

battles, conflicts, contests, & contentious-relationships

             between/among alienated people;

               rather than in terms of the:

authenticity, integrity,  coherence, robustness, accuracy,
reliability,  openness,  honesty, transparency,  justness,
fairness, etc. of

                   What-We-Say-And-Do.

When we are trapped in the above Tragic-Dilemmas -- we are
TRAGICALLY-CONTROLLED   by the  ALIENATIVE  Acts of  other
people who are:

 1.  Alienated.
 2.  Domineering.
 3.  Contentious-Negaters of Authentic-Affirmations.
 4.  Affirming the various Myths-of-Redemptive-Violence.
 5.  Arrogant and/or Self-Righteous.
 6.  Pretentious about their Powers.
 7.  Not learning from the costs of their past mistakes.
 8.  Unwilling to acknowledge their past mistakes.
 9.  Playing Collusive Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception.
10.  Addicted to other people's profitable "solutions".
11.  Showing reverence for very few isolated idols/IDEALS.
12.  Showing reverence for very few isolated idols/VALUES.
13.  Unable to acknowledge the truths within paradoxes.
14.  Preoccupied with Coalitions of Concentrated-POWERS.
15.  Preoccupied with Coalitions of Concentrated-WEALTH.
16.  Indifferent to the Corruption entailed in the above.
17.  Indifferent to instances of Distributive-Injustice.
18.  Not sympathetic-empathetic with Venerable-People.

To  avoid such entrapment.  we need to focus upon how ---
what we have done and are doing --- merits respect because
of our long-term:   authenticity,   integrity,  coherence,
robustness,   accuracy,  reliability,  openness,  honesty,
transparency, justness, fairness, etc.

To-Avoid-Such-Entrapment --- we  need to Stay-On-Message,
and   Decline-to-Take-for-Granted  what  others   Seek-to-
Entrap-Us Into-Taking-For-Granted ---   in Ways-Which-Are-
Inconsistent     With-Our-Own-Long-Term:     authenticity,
integrity,  coherence, robustness,  accuracy, reliability,
openness, honesty, transparency, justness, fairness, etc.

To-Avoid-Such-Entrapment    ---  we    can   Clarify-the-
Differences      Between-Our-Long-Term:      authenticity,
integrity, coherence, robustness,  accuracy,  reliability,
openness, honesty, transparency, justness,  fairness, etc.

--- and the: battles, conflicts, contests, and contentious
relationships between/among   Alienated-People who   Seek-
to-Seduce-US   into   their     Alienative-Ways-of-Dealing
With-Each-Other.

We-CANNOT-Avoid-Such-Entrapment ---  While-Alienated  from
those who Are-Entrapped   ---   By-We-Ourselves:

 1.  Being-Engaged in Conflicts-With-Them.
 2.  Pretending-to-Be-Superior-In    Alienation-From-Them.
 3.  Trying-to-Control Alienative-Behaviors-Ourselves.
 4.  Attempting to     Rescue/Save      Them-Unilaterally.
 5.  Attempting to Avoid-Contamination via     Distance.
 6.  Viewing them as Inherently-Evil-People in Alienation.
 7.  Viewing ourselves as Inherently-Good-People    Alone.
 8.  Engaging in  Superior-Kinds-of-Alienative-Behaviors.

     Be-Together in the Many-Gracious ways of Shalom.

                         (c) 2008 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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