This is http://www.essayz.com/b0712020.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== Click on WELCOME for a quick tour of essayz.com ========================================================== %SELF DEFEATING FOCI PLAYING COLLUSIVE GAMES MUTUAL 071202 %SELF DECEPTION COMPULSIVE FOCUSING UPON OUR DEFEAT 071202 %MUTUAL ENEMIES EVIL PEOPLE INHERENTLY BORN FALLEN 071202 %BLAME GUILT SHAME IMPURE IMPERFECT VULNERABLE FAIL 071202 %FALSE IMPRESSIONS REPUTATIONS MANIPULATED CONTROLS 071202 %DOMINATION SUPERIOR SUCCESS ACHIEVEMENT NOBEL GOOD 071202 Often Domineering-People Surrender-their-Integrity by making their Top-Priority be the DEFEAT/DESTRUCTION of other people's Affirmations. Such Domineering-People fear to be Vulnerable in initiating their Own-Affirmations which other people might Seek-to-DEFEAT/DESTROY. Such Domineering-People are Tragically-Preoccupied with DEFEAT; as in DEFEATing-Others and/or in Being-DEFEATed. They ignore the possibilities of Many-People-Winning-Together by Cooperating-in-Joint-Affirmations. People who are Compulsively-Preoccupied with DEFEAT put each other in charge of what will then be their Compulsive-Preoccupations. By slave-like shifting their own affirmations in ways which will maximize others' vulnerabilities --- they try to maximize how often they can DEFEAT others. Maximizing the Authenticity-and- Coherence of their own: Affirmations, Integrities, Health, and Being-Together --- in the Gracious-Ways-of-Shalom is NOT-A-PRIORITY to them. DEFEATING-OTHERS is their priority. They are SLAVES-TO-BEING-NEGATIVE! By being ESSENTIALLY-NEGATIVE they defeat themselves as they undermine their own Integrities and Integrations. Why should anybody honor, respect, support, or show reverence for Their-Destructive-Foci-In-Life? Their Foci are DEFEAT-and-DEATH! A slight variation upon the above preoccupation --- entails insisting that other be JUST-LIKE-ME! Different people are regarded as EVIL-ENEMIES! Anybody who makes different affirmations is thus a MORTAL-ENEMY. We can defeat "them" by insisting that they be JUST-LIKE-US! Strangers who have not yet affirmed all that we have affirmed --- are to be regarded as potential traitors! Beware! Be fearful! Be-on-guard-always! Call attention to how others are different, unlike us. For us to win and avoid defeat, we must make others be like us. Traitors tolerate different people. Beware! Be fearful. Be dominated by Fears-we-Give-You! Be-Together in the Many-Gracious ways of Shalom. (c) 2007 by Paul A. Smith in "Search for Honesty and Integrity" (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy) ========================================================== Click on WELCOME for a quick tour of essayz.com ==========================================================