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%HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS PEOPLE INVOLVED PARTICIPANTS 070707
%INTERNAL COMMUNICATIONS COOPERATIONS PARTS ASPECTS 070707
%EVIL ISOLATED ALIENATED EXCOMMUNICATED PEOPLE LOVE 070707
%GOOD GOD SHALOM WAYS BEING TOGETHER SANCTUARY EVIL 070707
%ALIENATIVE LABELING DOMINATION CONDEMNATION REJECT 070707
%EXCLUSIVE CLUBS RELIGIONS FORTRESSES FORTS DEFENSE 070707

Healthy-Relationships usually involve Relationships-Among-
Healthy-People  and vice versa;  i.e.,  Healthy-People are
usually  involved in Health-Relationships.   This is  true
because the usually understanding is that Health-in-People
has to do with the kinds of internal:  communications  and
cooperations among the internal parts/aspects of  people's
bodies --- likewise for Health-in-Relationships.

Can we safely say the same things about EVIL-Relationships
involving Relationships-Among-EVIL-People and vice-versa.
NO!  This is because the usual understanding is that EVIL-
People  are EVIL because of some inherent aspect  of  them
being who they are;  they are regarded as Essentially-EVIL
and there is no way for them to stop being EVIL-People. It
is best to destroy EVIL by destroying EVIL-People.

The  above lack of symmetry flows from  Domineering-People
manipulating  the Concept-of-EVIL so that it helps them to
be Successful-at-Domination --- by labeling some people as
EVIL-People without any clarity about the aspects of their
EVIL-Relationships  and just why their  Relationships  are
EVIL-Relationships.

Domineering-People  try  to  divert  attention  away  from
Their-Own-EVIL-Relationships-of-Alienation;   by  focusing
attention upon  people whom they  have  in Alienative-Ways
Labeled as being Essentially-EVIL --- at the core of their
Being-Whom-they-Are as Isolated-Individuals.

Some EVIL-Relationships  are  generated by Labeling-People
As-Essentially-EVIL-People.     EVIL   is   an  aspect  of
Relationships among People;  not an aspect of any isolated
persons.

It  is  misleading to attribute "EVIL"   to  any  isolated
person;   because no person in-isolation can be "EVIL"; as
no person in-isolation can be "heavy"  far away  from  any
other large mass.

"Weight"  is the force of gravitational attraction between
two  objects.    Weight  is  an  aspect  of a relationship
between  two objects.   No object by itself can  have  any
"Weight" or be "Heavy"; no matter how great its mass is.

Likewise no person by herself-or-himself can  be an "EVIL"
person;  without being in some  kind of  relationship with
another  person.    "EVIL"   is  an  aspect  of  personal-
relations; rather than an aspect of an isolated person.

"EVIL"   is  the  responsibility  of the  people  who  are
together in  an EVIL-Relationship;  not the responsibility
of any Isolated-Person  who has been labeled as  Being-an-
Essentially-EVIL Isolated-Person.

EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS  entail   Absences-and-Presences as
follows:

       Absences-of:                  Presences-of:

Honest Dialogue & Intimacy    Alienation & Estrangement

Cooperation & Mutuality       Animosity & Resentment

Mutual Respect & Honor        Polarizations & Conflicts

Generosity & Hospitality      Attacks and Retaliations

Sympathy & Empathy            Insensitivity & Meanness

Mutual-Understanding & Care   Mutual-Mis-Understandings

Mutual-Sharing & Support      Mutual-Denigrations

Mutual-Affirmations           Mutual-Negations

Transparency & Clarity        Masks and Confusion

Integrations & Integrities    Dis-Integrations & Chaos

Coherence and Colaboration    Incoherence & Conflict

The Presence of above:        The Absence of above:

The  Foot-Notes  at  the bottoms  each  column  above  are
suggestive of what is Present-In and Absent-From  HEALTHY-
Relationships  as  noted  above each Foot-Note.

    To the extent that in some personal  relationship  ---
there  are  Presences-Of and Absences-Of  those  realities
noted above each   Foot-Note;    to  such  an  extent  the
personal relationship is a  HEALTHY-Relationship.

    Note that the word "Good"  was not  used  here  as  an
aspect of persons; just as "Evil"   was not accepted as an
aspect of persons.

    The word "HEALTHY"  is the word to use;   better  than
"GOOD",  because "HEALTHY"   suggests  internally-coherent
relationships among the parts  of a HEALTHY-Person's body;
just    as    "Healthy"     suggests   internally-coherent
relationships   among  the  participants  in  a   HEALTHY-
Personal-Relationship involving two or more persons.

     Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom.

                         (c) 2007 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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