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  %SUCCESS PROTECTION DEFENSE SECURITY INVULNERABLE 070102
  %RISK AVOIDANCE LEGITIMATE OBJECTION JUDICIAL WAY 070102
 %SHALOM HEALING HEALTHY HOSPITALITY RECEPTION GOOD 070102
 %STEALING SEXUAL ABUSE DISHONEST GAIN ASSAULT RAPE 070102
 %DOMINATION AGAINST EVIL ISOLATED ALIENATED PERSON 070102
 %ELIMINATION THREATS CRIMES CRIMINAL ENEMIES DEVIL 070102

     Most  communities develop sanctions against what  are
regarded  as "objectionable-behaviors";  i.e.,   behaviors
against which legitimate objections,  judicial  procedures
and  punishments may be brought to bear  with  integrative
effects:

     1.  Stealing,
     2.  Sexual-Abuse,
     3.  Dishonest-Gain,
     4.  Physical-Assault, etc.

     When  there  is  physical  evidence  and/or  multiple
witnesses  who  agree on what was done ---  which has been
previously  forbidden  ---  communal agreement is possible
regarding what  should  be  done  about an "objectionable-
behavior" which has demonstrably occurred.

     It  is far more of a Dilemma/Problem when  objections
are brought regarding  how a Mutually-Agreeable Reflexive-
Relationship between/among two or more "adults"  has  been
evolving.    There  is  far  less  agreement  about   what
"Relationships"  are "objectionable" ---  for a variety of
reasons:

 1.  Evidence is rarely truly: "objective",  free-of-bias,
and free of prejudice.

 2.  The  realities which are central to the  "objections"
are Reflexive-Realities rather than "Objective-Realities".

 3.  The  "objectors"   may  have  "Dominant-Motivations",
which   are  understandably as "questionable"  as are  the
motivations   of   the  participants  in  the   Reflexive-
Relationships --- regarding which "Dominant-Objectors" are
upset.

 4.  The  "legislation"   which is the basis  for  lodging
"objections" is not definitive in a really clear way as to
what  particular behaviors are Legitimately-Objectionable;
and  what  is  adequate evidence that the  behaviors  have
occurred, at whose instigation, and with what results.

     It  is  difficult  to  helpfully  Mitigate-Objections
regarding  Reflexive-Relationships ---  in a way which  is
parallel to the judicial model for  dealing with the first
"objectionable-behaviors"   pointed to at the  opening  of
this essay.

     It  is  difficult  to  helpfully  Mitigate-Objections
regarding Reflexive-Relationships --- in a way which fails
to deal explicitly, clearly,  coherently and honestly with
the realities of:

 1.  Domination-Systems and their Loyal-Supporters.
 2.  Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception.
 3.  Addictive-Codependent-Relationships.
 4.  Addictions to Drugs, Sex, Relationships, Work, etc.
 5.  Conflicts between religious groups/institutions.
 6.  Conflicts regarding the regulation of sexuality.
 7.  Fallen, but redeemable, "Powers That Be" re. W. Wink.
 8.  Military-Industrial-Complexes.
 9.  Corporations granted Rights of Private Individuals.
10.  Alienative Concentrations of Powers and Wealth.
11.  Evil-Relationships suffused with Alienation.
12.  Which envisioned "successes" are in fact impossible.

     Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom.

                         (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On  Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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