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 %FACTORS CONTRIBUTE POLARIZATION CONTRAST FACTIONS 060612
 %DICHOTOMY EMBARRASS GUILT SHAME DILEMMAS PROBLEMS 060612
 %SEXUALITY INTEREST DESIRES HOPES ASPIRATIONS JOIN 060612
 %OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE CONVERSATION COMMUNITY GUILT 060612
%SHAME ABUSE ABUSIVE ADDICT CODEPENDENT RAPE FALLEN 060612
%POWERS THAT BEING SUPERIOR INFERIOR DOMINATION GOD 060612

     What  are some of the factors that may  contribute to
polarizing communities into contrasting fractions who are:

     1.  Greatly inhibited by embarrassment, guilt, shame,
and related problems with their sexuality; and

     2.  Greatly-in-the-face-of the above fraction ---  in
overt expressions of sexual: interests, activities, hopes,
aspirations, or manipulative-endeavors for-personal-gain.

     It is helpful to take note of the following:

     a.  Domineering people attempt to use human sexuality
as   a   tool  to   facilitate:    domination,    control,
manipulations and related efforts on their part.

     b.  Being honest,   intimate  and  sexually  involved
entails   being  vulnerable  to  others;    including   to
domineering people ---  especially when those involved  are
not well trained in effectively-resisting-non-violently.

     c.  Being involved in integrative activities  entails
being  vulnerable  to others,   including  to  domineering
people  ---  especially when you are not well  trained  in
effectively-resisting-non-violently.

     d.  Many    aspects-of-human-sexuality   are    often
evident-foci    within     collusive-games-of-mutual-self-
deception;   e,g,:  birth,  aging,  death,   prostitution,
pornography,  male-dominance,  addictions,   codependence,
independence, interdependence, dependence, controls, evil-
relationships,     good-relationships,    reconciliations,
management,   worship,   idealism,   tragedies, paradoxes,
idolatry, dichotomization, polarizations,  etc.

     e.  Authorities  have often failed to deal  helpfully
with the risks and occasions of sexual-abuse of vulnerable
people  by more powerful people:  parent-child,   teacher-
student,  counselor-counseled, pastor-parishioner, priest-
parishioner, professor-student, employer-employee, addict-
codependent,    etc.    Such  relationships  often  entail
ambiguities which cannot be totally eliminated ---   while
at  the same time affirming,  facilitating and  defending:
personal-integrities,   communal-integrities,    open-and-
honest-dialogue,     and    overall-basic-human    rights.
Simplistic  solutions  can often create more dilemmas  and
tragedies than they avoid/eliminate.

     All of the above need to be given some  consideration
in  the  processes of sorting out what merits  our  honor,
respect, support, and perhaps reference; and what we would
be willing to let-go-of in  ---   order  to enjoy healthy-
relationships within the Ways-of-Shalom.

     Just as the exact meanings actually conveyed by words
depend  upon  the  contexts  within which  the  words  are
encountered;   so also each of the above realities conveys
meanings which depend upon  the contexts within which each
reality  is encountered.   The meanings of all  realities-
that-are-jointly-present, are essentially-inter-dependent.
It  is alienative  to  pretend that the meanings of  words
an/or realities, are not essentially-inter-dependent.   No
meanings  are  "absolute"  in isolation  of  our  personal
experiences  of  them,  within  particular   contexts  and
situations.

     Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom.

                         (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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