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     The  extent  to  which we are able to  transcend  the 
Tragic-Limitations of  Thoughtless-and-Alienative  Taboos; 
while  dealing Wisely/Prudently with the  Real-Risks  that 
they Ostensibly-Address ---  depends greatly upon how well 
we  deal with the Conflicting-Interests  of  Past-Present- 
and-Future: 

     (1) Domineering-People, 
     (2) Vulnerable-People, and 
     (3) Interested/Concerned-Bystanders 

     who are NOT Intimately-Involved in our 
     Own-Most-Risky and Most-Intimate-Relations. 

     All Intimate-Relationships entail Real-Risks. 

     Healthy-Intimate-Relationships
         Which are Honored

                 and

     Dysfunctional-Intimate-Relationships
         Which are NOT-Healthy

            entail Real-Risks, but Different-Risks.

     All kinds of Intimate-Relationships entail Real-Risks
whether they be:

     Family-Relationships,
     Relationships-with-Neighbors,
     Economic-Relationships,
     Commercial-Relations,
     Spiritual-Relationships,
     Sexual-Relationships,
     Platonic-Relationships,
     Scholarly-Relationships, AND/OR
     Objective-Relationships, etc. in some combinations.

     The Kinds-of-Risks entailed in Intimate-Relationships
are varied:

     1.  Objective, Reflexive, and Subjective.
     2.  Economic, Healthy, Psychological, Spiritual.
     3.  Integrative, Disintegrative.
     4.  Misunderstandings, Misinterpretations.
     5.  Contextual, Communal, Personal.

     The  extent  to  which we are able to  transcend  the
Tragic-Limitations of  Thoughtless-and-Alienative  Taboos;
while  dealing Wisely/Prudently with the  Real-Risks  that
they Ostensibly-Address ---  depends greatly upon how well
we  deal with the Conflicting-Interests  of  Past-Present-
and-Future:

     (1) Domineering-People,
     (2) Vulnerable-People, and
     (3) Interested/Concerned-People.

     The  level of risk increases when it is Taboo-to-Talk
Openly-And-Honestly about the kind and levels of risk.

     We  cannot deal Wisely/Prudently with the  Real-Risks
which are Present-in-our-Intimate-Relationships ---  if we
are Unable-To and/or Fail-To Openly-And-Honestly:

     1.  Talk about them.
     2.  Share them with each other in Gracious-Ways.
     3.  Manage them Together-in-the-Way-of-Shalom.
     4.  Balance-Each-Other's-Best-Interests-Mutually.
     5.  Learn from Our-Own and Each-Other's-Mistakes.
     6.  Deal with our Personal-and-Communal-Tragedies.
     7.  Deal with Our-Vulnerabilities-and-Dominations.

     Our-Dilemmas  in  regards  to  our   Thoughtless-and-
Alienative-Taboos    seem   to lead  us   into   tragedies
most often within the contexts of Unusual-Intimate:

     1.  Political-Relationships,
     2.  Religious-Relationships and
     3.  Sexual-Relationships ---

     Because it is within such Intimate-Relationships that
the       Tensions-Contentions-and-Conflicts       between
Domineering-People and Vulnerable-People are Greatest  and
Most-Tragic.

     To transcend such  Tensions-Contentions-and-Conflicts
we  must  learn how to deal Openly-and-Honestly with  ways
to:

     1.  Recognize,
     2.  Acknowledge,
     3.  Clarify,
     4.  Describe and
     5.  Mitigate them ---

     without  affirming Traditional-Misleading-Myths about
the Redemptive-Powers of Unilateral:

     1.  Violence,
     2.  Coercion,
     3.  Demands,
     4.  Commands,
     5.  Rescues,
     6.  Intimacies,
     7.  Salvation.

     True-Lovers  Help-Each/Every-Other Transcend The-Way-
of-Domination by Offering True-Communal-Sanctuaries within
which  ALL  can be Safe-and-Secure in  Letting-Go-of-The-
Tools-of-Domination.

     Domineering-People  are  Never-Truly-Safe-and-Secure,
because    they    Make-their-Ultimate-Concern   be    the
Achievement-of-Invulnerability  by  ever  Clinging-to-The-
Tools-of-Domination.

     True-Lovers  accept Mutual-Balanced-Vulnerability  as
an Essential-Aspect of Healthy-Security-and-Intimacy.

     Domineering-People Fear-all-forms-of-Vulnerability as
Incompatible-With True-Security-Within-Invulnerability.

     True-Lovers  will  prevail  graciously  by  Speaking-
Truth-to-Fallen-Powers-That-Be - In-Denial about the Many-
Complementary-Truths   that   by     Being-Well-Integrated
transcend each Ostensibly-ABSOLUTE but ISOLATED-TRUTH.

        Be-Intimately-Together in The-Ways-of-Shalom.

                         (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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